He asked me who was my best parnter. I told him honestly dat my ex parnter was good in bed than him. I told him dat it dont matter if hes not good in bed i still love him and he told me dat i can holla at my ex parnter if he cant do da job. Pls help me... wat will i do and tell him... to make him understand. I really do love my bf. i dont want to lose him.
2007-01-25 22:12:38 · 15 answers · asked by mizzsilencewun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well ... it's a psychological thing. Don't bring the past to the present. Guys hate it when you bring your ex-boyfriends lifestyle to yours. The same is for the ladies too. If he is not good in bed, you need to coach him. Tell him what you like and show him what you want. But, don't say "do it hard like Dave does". Remember, keep the past in the past. Ask yourself some questions. What is he doing wrong in bed? Is it his size? If you communicate with him, then things will work out.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-25 22:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Mui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not surprised he is mad at you, no man likes to be told he has a small one, how would you have reacted if he said it's normal size, it's just that you have a huge one. You wouldn't be at all happy with him, and it is a worse feeling for men, they think their size measures their manhood. I think it was very insensitive what you said, and it doesn't matter how many times you apologise you cannot un ring that bell, and it is going to hurt him for a long long time. I hope the fight was worth it to you, because you caused him a lot of hurt and embarrassment.
2016-05-24 01:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart' you should have kept your mouth shut. There are other ways of handling this. But now you have made him feel less than a man. You are going to lose him. All you had to do is show him how you like it and ease him into it. But now i doubt he will respond to you. The only way you are going to be able to keep him is to fix his damaged ego. But after saying something like this it ain't going to be easy. This is like him telling all his best friends that you have a hole in you as big as the Holland tunnel. You wouldn't forgive him would you?
2007-01-25 22:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you should never do is tell your current boyfriend is that he's not as good as a past one is when you're having sex. Tell him you love him and sex isn't the most important thing that the two of you share. Tell him the reasons why you love him more than you loved a past boyfriend. Tell him this relationship is more than just a physical one and that you love him for more than just what can or can't do in bed.
2007-01-25 22:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well its not something you say cos.. the male ego is the biggest in the world and i think men have a part of their brain in their dick... so i think if you want to do some damage control yep let him know the next how good he really is.. and no one can be better than him and make him feel special..
When it comes to comparing which of ur ex's was better in better non of them were.. its the current one.. he's the best.. even if ur guilty of faking it.. or lying.. do it cos you love him ..
2007-01-25 22:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by udayshankar_sandhya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truly, you make a big mistake.. when you love someone you should accept what he have,learn to accept your lover lack. anyone does not like to be compared with others, also you...
what your relationship for? just for sex? think about it... tell your bf that you make the mistake, make him apologies you.. maybe you can tell that he is more good in other part,
2007-01-25 22:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by fyda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, I can't stop laughing..... Ok, wait..... hahahahahahahaha. Ok, I can't believe you told him the TRUTH! Girl, what were you thinking?! I think it's a little too late cuz you can't take it back. But you know, if he loves you (and you certainly love him cuz you were brutally honest) then you should try and get him interested in, shall we say, 'experimenting'?!
2007-01-25 22:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry dear. Keep your past in the past. U should have soothed his ego, but dont ever say u aint good in bed. even u sister, u wouldnt like it that way.
Im sorry
2007-01-25 22:25:36 · answer #8 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want to teach him the ways to make ya holla,thn good r bad make him think he found a undiscovered spot no ones ever found before, and its THAT spot the ONE that beats all others! work it girl!
2007-01-25 22:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by IZZY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too late!! Some things are better left unsaid.
2007-01-25 22:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋