Did you ask for a second woman? Did it work out?
2007-01-25 21:33:11 · 10 answers · asked by tishniaeq069696 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MY husband and I recently had a 3-sum. In December I signed up to an adult sex site and we met this woman at a hotel. She was very nice, I think that is why I went through with it. My husband was excited to live out every mans fantacy. I had wanted to watch him with another woman, and enjoyed watching. Of course I was also involved. But, one thing happened. He kissed her. And I mean this kiss was a kiss. No, it was not a french kiss, but it was more passionate, loving and gentle than it should have been. I still picture it in my mind. The thing about it is, that I had been asking my husband for more kisses in our love life. So, when I saw him kiss her as if he should be kissing me, well..... I knew he didn't love her or find her attractive, like he does me. But for some reason my husband had it in his head that he knew he could please me, so he hade to prove it to himself if he still could please another woman. As I put it, I told him it was like he was having sex with 2 women.... Not a woman and his wife. I felt like he put her needs before mine. It is hard to understand why my love would do this. IT hurts, but the way I have dealt with it is as I have other hurtful things he has said or did in the past, is that he had another DUMB A$$ attack. My advise is not to do it. Too many risksAll it takes is for him to do one thing for her that he has slacked on with you and your crushed. I believe that my husband and I have grown a lot closer in the past month and a half from this whole ordeal. HE did relieze how it hurt me, but said that the experiance has made him releize that he loves me more than anything. My husband kisses me more now, yes I was said at first that it took another woman to make him figure out that he needs to kiss me more, but at least he is doing it now. Good luck.
2007-01-26 01:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes that stirs up the WRONG kind of emotion. be very careful about that.
one second he could be really into it, and the next he could freak out and claim your a lesbian or that your cheating with a woman. guys get paranoid, about stuff like that. they all THINK that's what they want. and when it's two chicks no strings attached it's different.
when it's your wife, and some strange girl...that's a new ball game.
what if YOU start to resent him for going through with it, not putting up more resistance, you could start to feel like maybe he has lost interest in you or develop a fear of him liking it so much that he seeks out partners other than in your bedroom.
it's one of those situations where both parties need to be COMPLETELY honest and open with one another AND that you are very very clear about what you expect.
also finding someone that is healthy, and emotionally stable enough to know their "place" in a relationship like this can get frustrating. what if the "second" women develops feelings for you husband or you. what if SHE starts to have feelings of doubt or resentment?
this is your marriage your playing with....not a new toy. be careful. there are real feelings involved.
2007-01-26 05:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Done that; been there.
It's not for everyone, believe me. Done 3-ways with a close male friend, too. No big problem.
Never, ever do it thinking you're going to "fix" some problem in your relationship. It'll likely just make things worse.
Only proceed into open relationship situations out of a position of total strength. Too often, problems will arise out of jealousy, insecurity or performance anxiety.
2007-01-26 08:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never ask to invite another women. It sounds fun at first but later I believe guilt would come into play
2007-01-26 05:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by schlaf 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say no man who wanted to stay married would ask for another woman
2007-01-26 05:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by Bob D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 12 yrs and I offered this exact thing to my husband about 2yrs ago cos I thought he was getting bored in the bedroom. We discussed it and I laid down my rules and he agreed with them ( if it were to happen ) but he declined saying it wasn't something he wanted to do. Things have never been better and we r both horny for each other. LOL
2007-01-26 05:41:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is how my first marriage failed. We had a threesome and even though we had rules, he didn't follow them and was sleeping around behind my back. He saw it as permission to cheat type of thing. I filed for divorce and never looked back. I will never ever go for that type of thing again.
2007-01-26 06:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think my ex just went out and found her own woman.
2007-01-26 05:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by PartyTime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i didnt and i wont. i love my marriage and the life i have with her. there is no reason for me to ask for someone else
2007-01-26 05:53:00 · answer #9 · answered by young grown man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always wanted to but never did.
2007-01-26 05:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by dana5169 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋