Why do people bully other people? Do they like hurting other peoples feelings?

Answer 1

Usually bullies have very low self esteem and they get their feelings of "worth" by making others feel bad. They haven't learned that they can be powerful *without* taking away some else's power.

Answer 2

People bully for several reasons:
1. To get power, either:
A. Through making someone else embarassed, physically overpowered/intimidated, subservient.
B. By making them perform actions or give them things to prevent being singled out for more bullying. (Gimme your lunch money!)
C. Threatening to tell Secrets or hurt someone or break something you care about.

2. Because they are insecure. Most bullies have someone at home making their life hell. It may be verbal abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, or age old neglect. But something in this person's life isn't right.

3. They want attention. They want to feel special. This is similar to power, but also adulation or fear- they want to be known, renown, infamous. Many feel compelled to do greater and greater things to stoke their egos. Usually an inevitable stumbling block will bruise their ego and reign them in some.

These are the same basic falts of everyone. Want of Attention, Power over ones circumstances, wanting to be famous, to be the center of attention- these things are pretty universal. The bully is only different in how they express their needs and go about gaining the 'respect' they believe they deserve.

It is truly a learned behavior, but it is also a cultural behavior. As children in grammar school (elementary) are given a rather broad free range publicly becuase they are so young and they tend to do some terrible things. (As children do all over the world.)

Children are told what to do by parents, teachers, adults, doctors, people on TV, friends, almost everyone. It's hard not to want to tell someone what to do or have power over something, anything! Even without any real problem siblings can be seen bullying eachother as a matter of course, becuase they are emulating their parents.

No one is perfect. The problem is that some people are not given the tools to deal with the problems that they are facing in their life. Either that, or they chose to ignore those tools that they do have.

The best way to deal with a bully is be SMARTER! A bully by and large is working on intimidation and yes, physical confrontation.

Act confident, Be assertive(not aggressive, which they can feed off of), make them look like the idiot, and worst case scenario: Let them throw the first punch in front of witnesses. If they try to corner you, run, there's no shame in moving to your prefered fighting grounds. (Or going somewhere where there are witnesses/help.)

Good Luck.

Answer 3

Because most (not all) people are rotten. I despise bullies. Of course, we all know that many children bully each other. But, disturbingly, so do adults. For example, bullying is very common in the workplace. Again, these are grown men and women (some with children) doing the bullying. Simply amazing! Getting back to bullying children, there is a prevailing attitude (again, among adults) that bullying is a natural, acceptable part of growing up. Survival of the fittest and all that crap. Nonsense. These enablers fail to realize the long-term impact of bullying.

Answer 4

I believe they do,i was bullied in school, called names and etc... and it never goes away i believe that they just wanna be stand outs and want to show people how much they can hurt someone and they are totally insensitive, i was bullied by popular students and i don't even know why to this very day, and most of the bullying was done by boys go figure.

Answer 5

They do it just because they like hurting other people - It is as simple as that||


I am living in a town where 95% + of the people are - for lack of a better term - evil!

But I am kicking butt big time now|


To give you an example!


The chicken place in town is run by a greedy capitalist|

What the staff do is stall in the back when there is a customer waiting, just to stonewall, so that they can prove that they are in control.

Now, one day, they pulled this stunt on me||

I started bugging them, tapping on the microphone - "hey where are you people?"

Exasperated, they came out|

I ordered a chicken dinner, and when I was half finished, I realized it was cooked in yesterday's oil and the fries had all this fluff on them|

They had gotten back at me for taking them to task for their games|


So then I told what happened to a person with clout in town|

The word then spread all around town about what they did, and no one came to the restaurant any more|

The restaurant had to close as a result|


That is just the *first* of many businesses I plan to close here|


If people in this town think that they can treat others like s*** just because they can, I am going to drop kick them something so severe that they will be running home crying to mama!




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Answer 6

It is sad but yes there are a lot of people who enjoy hurting other peoples' feelings. I think it has to do with inferiority compexes that these people might have. Maybe they did not get too much love and attention from their parents or friends or someone else hurt them in the same way. It is just a childish way to get power over situations and people.

Answer 7

No, only in rare cases do "bullys" actually enjoy hurting other people. That case would the case of a psychopath.

Most people, who choose to bully, do so as a distraction from their own hurt feelings. That means a bully has inner feelings of inadequacies, but chooses to magnify the inadequacies of others in order to forget about their own.

Generally healthy people can deal with feelings of inadequacies by exercising a little healthy narcissism; writing off others criticisms, rising above the negative behaviors of others(maintaining a healthy level of self worth, pride, confidence, ect).

Bullys instead of dealing with their feelings inside manifest their frustrations and insecurities by bullying others.

Very rarely does a bully actually enjoy the hurting of others feelings but they do enjoy the distraction it provides from their own. Understand that a "bully" has almost always "been bullied".

Answer 8

people have low self esteem and if there mom and dad where like that when they were young it then goes to them. In other to make them look good and feel good is to be a bully. when someone is much bigger and taller then they are and they get bullied..then the shoe is on the other foot and then they are not in power any more..as long as they find people who are either slow or can't stand up for them self they will keep bullying others. to make them feel and look good

Answer 9

people bully others because it gives them a sense of superiority...it makes them feel that others are inferior to them and that they have the maximum power...just to feel that they are the best and can do anything
some people bully to irritate others and make fun of them so that they themselves can have fun and laugh without realizing that they are hurting others.

Answer 10

Yes, unfortunately there are a lot of people that enjoy hurting other people's feelings, usually because that is what came out of their parents' mouths. People learn from their parents and repeat the pattern of abuse.

Abuse, the gift that keeps on giving.