Is it cheating on your partner to have a love affair with someone else in your dreams?

Answer 1

this dreams really got to you.how many questions about it and do you know who it is

Answer 2

As long as the dreams don't become reality, it's okay. Most people have had sexual dreams about someone other than their partners; that is a fact of life. Though not always, however, this can sometimes mean that there is a deficiency in the current relationship. If you keep having the dream, ask yourself some tough questions. How is your relationship (if you're not with anyone right now, strike that question; you're just fantasizing!)? Are there any issues, stresses right now? Have you sought counseling for the relationship? What are the triggers for the dreams? In short, don't feel bad if you occasionally have a lurid dream about someone else. However, it is a big red flag if your dream life is considerably better than your current relationship (trust me, I know; I once had a steamy dream about the actor Hugh Laurie; I woke up mortified next to my husband!) Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

Ok. I (planted) a tape and heard my boyfriend telling some woman about dreams he has of her and what he wants to do to her. He was talking to her over the phone. Yet he claims to have these dreams. To me, this is cheating or getting ready to. When I first heard the tape, I couldn't even speak. If the tables were reversed, just what do you think your partner would do? or how do you think they would feel?

Answer 4

NO
check out the post 'cheating in dreams" at

Answer 5

Interesting question to me. I think it depends. Do you know the person in your dream, and, did you want to have a dream about them? Perhaps it is cheating. Sin, which is what cheating is, isn't it? is about the heart, more than actual actions.

Now if the dream just kind of comes forth then I don't think you are cheating. The true test is "where is your heart"?

Answer 6

a love affair is something that goes on for a while...i take it you've been having these dreams recurringly then?
if so, then i think it may be classified as cheating because clearly your mind is preoccupied with thoughts of this other person.
one hot night of lusty dreams i dont think counts as cheating

Answer 7

No not at all.
Your subconscious mind works in mysterious ways.The lover in your dream may well represent your partner or someone else.
Keep on Dreaming.

Answer 8

Hi there. no this doesnt mean that u have cheated, dreams like that can mean that you are feeling down,things arent going right in your life,.....you are seeking love a or comfort right now,dreams like this are a way of comforting you.hope this has helped.... xxx

Answer 9

Nah... dreams and fantasies are the only time you CAN have an "affair" and not have to feel guilty about it!

Go for it, enjoy them while they last...I would.

Answer 10

unless you want it to be true. lust is just is another form of cheating. and premeditated lust is bad. a dreamed lust isn't bad, in my opinion, unless you actually have feelings for that individual. in that case...you're mind is giving you dreams of what you want, and what you should want is your partner 100% and nothing else. its common for the human mind to want the ideal examples of the opposite sex, and that could be the reason for the dream/s. that's okay. if it were me, i would feel terrible, and would act awkwardly infront of that individual if i knew them. and regardless if i knew them or not, i would focus more attention on my girl than i have before that night. i would tell her things to support her thoughts about your trustworthiness for her, for if you believe you can make someone believe in yourself, its a little easier for you to believe in yourself as well...

Answer 11

No I wouldn't consider that cheating, you cannot help your dreams while you are sleeping. If you are dreaming about them while you are awake...well..yes I would consider that cheating.
Hope that helps.