Whats it like to be a single parent?

Answer 1

hello,
well i have a 11yr old and a 2yr old, i was with the youngest father till she was 1 but never with my oldest father after i got prego....but being a single parent is veery hard....i never get to see my children that much due to my line of work to support them and its not their fault that they are here....thank god my oldest daughter understands what mom has to do....my parents have my children 70% of the time and i know its not fair to them but child support isn't there and its court ordered but their fathers avoid it...so i am the sole providor of them....and you have to look at it this away they didn't ask to be here...so you have to put your children first...and if i had it all to do over again i would have to say no not at all....i love my daughters very much but it does have its moments when i have to be both parents and do every little thing for them when their fathers need to pitch in and help but men not all but most don't take the responsibility like they should.....i love bothe of them individualy and would not trade them for the world......but like a lot of people have said on here its not as easy as some people let on....some times ya wanna cry because you don't know how the rents gonna get paid or when the next meal will come from but you know what you gotta do for your children and what makes them happy is love that is all they really ask for from the day they are born....i love both my daughters and they are what i look foward to every day when i get up or get in from work......they are my light of the day and my moon at night .....they are my every thing and apart of me thats what makes them so special in my eyes.....and god will help you if you ask and pray for a way if there are troubles he always found a way for me and he will for every singel parent you just have to ask and trust in him for him to show the way....good luck

Answer 2

It is difficult and necessary to have others help to accomplish such a title. Rewarding but exhausting. If you are asking with plans to be a single parent before having children, I wouldn't suggest it. Ever heard the phrase, "It takes a city to raise a child"? Well, it's the truth. If you are asking because you will be becoming a single parent after a failed relationship, of course you will find the strength to raise your child but it won't be easy on your own. You will be 100% responsible for not only yourself, but also another life. Feeding, dressing, bathing, clothing, housing, attention, sleepless nights, doctoring, holidays, celebrations, schooling, transportation, etc. There is a whole lot that goes along with being a parent and it is a LIFETIME commitment. Mommy has no sick time, nap time, play time, going out time, UNLESS arrangements have been made which will more than likely cost $. It's possible, rewardingly possible, but not recommended if there's the option. LOVE finds a way!

Answer 3

It's hard. It's expensive. But it's well worth it. Just make sure you keep an eye on your child at all times, even while at work. (if your child is older) You can get family or friends to spy (I really don't mean it like that) or keep an eye out. I had a problem with my daughter when she was in the 11th grade. She skipped school for 2 weeks. She didn't think she'd get caught either. She was busted big time! If you give kids 2 inches, they sometimes become spoiled and want the whole foot. It happened to me. But I don't regret any of the hard times with her. Good Luck,

Answer 4

As a new single parent...having only been divorced for six months, I can say I'm having a blast! The secret is to maintain a great relationship with your childrens father/mother, so that they're willing to help keep the kids so that you can go out, and get some free time to yourself. Also, spend lots of special time with the kiddies...movies, zoo..etc.

Answer 5

I used to be a single parent. Its hard. Putting your child before your own needs is easy. Its being able to pull shelter & food off. And have extra money to buy your child the things you think they should have. But its totally worth it. Coming home after work, seeing your child's face.... it makes all the stress from work & college worth it. No one can love you like a child. Its unconditional. If you have a good support base, like family and friends, you'll be fine. Keep your head up.

Answer 6

Was a single parent for 13 years and although it was stressful, I was the happiest woman in the world, my son gave me so much joy, he was such a good child that all the struggles just seemed to disappear, when I thought of him. Yes, it is hard but it is very rewarding also if you are willing to put your child ahead of yourself.

Answer 7

It's very hard and stressful and most of them wish they weren't. They are constantly overwhelmed and filled with regret unless they are too busy to have a chance to be. I know many but ofcourse none of them would want to admit these things to themselves outloud. or silently

Answer 8

Very lonely. My mom did it and raised 7 children by herself after dad died. She went crazy every once in awhile but we made it. It makes me hold on closer to my husband.

Answer 9

it is rough, stressful and tiring....especially if the father is not in the picture financially. you have to be the mother, father and best friend....it is very hard, playing, cooking, cleaning, fussing, repeating yourself, spanking...etc....but at the end of the day....when your child is sleep in bed you cant help but look at her/him and think how precious they are. i love my daughter and will never regret having her.

Answer 10

IT IS VERY HARD BUT NOT AS HARD AS LIVING IN A LOVELESS MARRIAGE!! THERE ARE WORSE THINGS THAN BEING SINGLE PARENT!!