If so, how do you maintain your friendships? I've moved every two years for the past fifteen years, and I don't have any close friends.
2007-01-25 19:40:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i've been moved to 6 times in past 12 years. one country to the other, local, east coast to west coast, now i will move from west coast to pacific northwest in march.
the problem of moving so often is that as you mentioned, it's very hard to make close freinds. i do make friends as i move to new places, but it's hard to call them as a "CLOSE FRIEND".
especially if you move to different timezone, it's very hard to maintain the friendship!
what i do is, email them on holidays such as new year or christmas. that way i can still contact with them without calling them regularly. and i try to contact with them on messenger (aim or msn) if i have time and see them online status.
but again, it's very hard to maintain the friendship. :(
2007-01-25 19:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by okitoki2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, I have moved so many times, I can't remember just how many. My dad was in the service when I was small, etc....The truth of the matter is that it is difficult to maintain those friendships. I have no lifelong friends from school. The silver lining in that dark cloud is that I have experienced alot of things that most people only read or dream about. It makes me a very interesting, well-rounded person. I also learned to be adaptable and to appreciate the time I do have to be friends with someone. Plus, if you are in a place that isn't all that wonderful, well, you know that you'll have a new beginning soon. I know that you probably feel lonely and it's hard to have so much change when you are young. You'll appreciate it more when you're older and, if not, then you'll know to raise your children differently. Good luck.
2007-01-26 03:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by debdini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - what a cool question... and I thought I was the only one who thought about such things. To give you an idea how close to my heart this is... I have moved so many times my family calls me "Gypsy". There is even a joke among family and friends that they should just all pitch in and buy me a motor-home so I could at least drive to visit (ha - like I could afford that at these gas prices)!
For ALL my life - military father, me in the military, married military, I "traveled". Even as a civilian now for several years, there is always a reason that packs me up to move on down the road.
Having moved as much as I have, my joy is making "wherever I am - home". I have learned friends will be friends, far or near... so I am willing to make the effort to make and SUSTAIN friendships. Call, email, write snail-mail letters, exchange photos, share news, send gifts... just stay in touch with those you have left behind.
I feel you when you say you don't have "close" friends... but I know you can do it. Single out and nurture the friends you want to hold with you... forever... make them a part of your day to days.
My mother used to tell me "distance makes the heart grow fonder". I have come to find that important. When I reach out... even after I have left somewhere, and include a friend in my "new life"... they really appreciate it and make efforts to stay in touch and close.
Much luck and blessings to you. I hope I helped.
2007-01-26 04:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by wonderful1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've moved around quite a few cities in a few continents. I've made "friends" and then I moved again. I tried to maintain the relationships but after calling a few times and emailing more often, realized it's one sided. Best to stay put so that you can meet with your friends and share your time with and do things that friends do. But then, if they are really "true friends", we wouldn't be having problems maintaining these friendships. Oh, I'm moving again.
2007-01-26 03:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by Kal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been to nine different schools during my years. I do have some friends. I always make sure that when I make a friend I have their phone number and email. We keep in touch. If you have a car you can drive to see them. I live 2 hours away from my friends but every once in a while i'll go visit them.
2007-01-26 03:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lynze B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were to ask, I don't really move that frequent... But, a piece of advice... If you really want a lasting friendship, keep a bond between you two... Even if you are a million miles away, as long as you have each other in your heart, then distance is not significant anymore...
2007-01-26 03:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by xander_champ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fine.
2007-01-26 03:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by dizzy wizzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends like pebbles are everywhere....but trustworthy are as rare as gold......
2007-01-26 03:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by chakaleri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋