I'd only seen him 4 times due to distance and he'd let me down a few times.I put 'About coming
up.I don't want you to.I really need to make a fresh start and being involved with you compicates everything.I hope you understand.take care'
I received one back.'No problem I understand.What with the distance I have to travel and you only ok for Fridays we couldn't do much anyway.If you ever want to meet up if I'm up there let me know but looks like you have things to sort out.take care'
I'm hardly likely to contact him when i've sorted out things as he's the complication.I've got things to sort out with my ex-husband maybe he thought i meant that.
Anyway I'll never contact him again even though I loved him.
2007-01-25 19:17:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is just keeping his options open....for future shags x
2007-01-25 19:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keeping his options open
Trying to have his cake and eat it.
Are all phrases that come to mind.
Try having a conversation instead of sending text messages.
Only 1 in 33 married lovers leave there spouses for there new lover!!!
9 out 10 statistics are made up on the spot.
Good luck
2007-01-25 22:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by graemefirth894 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is leaving the door open for you in case you change your mind, but seeing that he is cheating on his wife he has probably got another girl lined up, you should just ignore him and be glad you had a lucky escape go out and have fun and if you meet another guy make sure he is single and lives near that way you will get treated like you want to be instead of sharing your guy with someone else. also i think you are very lucky his wife never found out as she would of been heartbroken and if he had kids then they would have been devastated, be thankful the wife hasn't a bad temper because if you had an affair with my husband i would have put you in hospital !!!!!!!1
2007-01-25 20:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were a willing participant in a relationship with a married man? Are you insane???? What about this guy's wife and kids? Did you give any thought to what you two idiots were doing to his wife and family? Obviously not! Sweetheart, you're nothing but a sl*t and he's a bast*rd. Actually you deserve each other because you're both low lifes!
2007-01-26 07:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by saylavie2u2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that as he have never thought about leaving his wife he understands u . its more like he was ok with this situation , having his wife and u , or at least for the time being . he leaves the door open but i think the best is to keep going on with ur life and stop any contact with him . i know its difficult and i am sure u have strong feelings for him but it wouldnt bring u anywhere .
get over it and see what life has in store for u !
best wishes
2007-01-25 20:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what it means:
He is the problem, but he is guilting you by making it your fault you are breaking-up with him, not the fact that he is married and cheating on his wife. He has things to sort-out. He just doesn't get it. This would not be a good relationship for you in the long run anyway.
2007-01-25 19:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about you go to your phone company and have his number blocked!!!! There is no reason you should allow this to continue nor accept being second to anyone so you need to find someone that will help build your confidence and care for you not just for the sex but because of the person you are.
2016-05-24 01:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mistake was not saying it is over. i do not want you in my life anymore. or words to that effect if that is what you mean.
he sees your ambiguous text as the friendship/ relationship is still open.
you could have said it better.
such as:
Please do not come up and see me, i do not want you to. I have made a fresh start in my life and you are not apart of that new life.
please erase all my contact details from your cell, pda etc. You are the reason I needed to make this new start.
I hope you understand my reasoning. (you start by detailing your reasons why you do not want him in your life, then move on to the sample text i just put).
speaking as a man, we need you to say exactly what you mean. in a clear concise manner. ladies tend to ramble on with information that to a guy is irrelevant. so if the relationship is over then start by saying we are finished, our relationship is over, i do not want to see or hear from you again etc. etc. depending on your situation.
you asked what his text meant. in short he is under the impression you still want to be friends and he would still like to be friends with you. so if this is not what you want then tell him.
it is your life. and don't contact him again. but he sounds like he would like to hear from you again.
it is your life live it your way!
2007-01-25 20:30:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you were just the bit on the side for this guy.
Sounds like he's relieved .
The rat is keeping his options open by saying "if you ever want to meet..."
You are well rid of him.
I dumped my married lover after a year of similar carry-on.
It shattered him.
He wrote to me, rang me, called to my house;
In the end he got the hint.
Stay strong.
2007-01-25 19:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by marie m 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
doesn't matter what he thinks it is over, and time for u to move out of the past and into the future. he wants to keep the door open for himself in case u change your mind about things, he has accepted what u need to do.
2007-01-26 00:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id start my not going over this stuff in a text exchange [head shake].
Surely the end is near.
2007-01-25 19:24:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋