I married my high school sweetheart. I couldn't wait to be married to him and now that i am, i have falling in love with my ex. I see my ex everyday at work which makes it no easier. I am so confused about what to do. and i have only been married for 1 month. I feel horrible but i can't help how i feel. There both great guys and i feel like i don't deserve either of them. And suggestions??????????? what would u do?
2007-01-25 18:45:28 · 22 answers · asked by curiouskitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
~What would I do? What could that possibly matter? I wouldn't have been in such a hurry to get married in the first place. However, what you should NOT do is have kids. Please. At least not until you grow up and can take care of yourself. In the meantime, you owe it to your husband to tell him what is going on, and maybe you should give some serious thought to counseling. Is the grass really greener over there, or do you just want something because you know you can't have it? It occurs to me that the other guy is you ex for a reason. Duh.
2007-01-25 18:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by Oscar Himpflewitz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think this one through very carefully. Do you love your husband? If so, you should honor your vowels. If you dont then maybe you and him need to sit down and have a serious discussion. As for your ex, i do not recommend hooking up with him on the side, it will not solve anything but will cause many problems. Think about it, is it worth losing your high school sweetheart for someone who will probably only use you in the long run? Remember, he is your ex for a reason. If you decise that your heart lies with your hubby, maybe you should remove the temptation from your ex, including changing jobs. Good luck...
2007-01-26 03:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First why did you and your ex break it off? Second Why did you and your husband get married? You must love him to be married. Also the first 2 years are the hardest. I think that you should wait and see what happens. Does your ex love you back? and is it love or do you think that it once was and you cant get over it? I would try to avoid him as much as I could, until you can get your head straight. Hope that helps.
2007-01-26 02:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by lil_sis458 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a married lady, and you should abide by your vows. The feelings you have for your ex may only be fantasies. Why wreck a good marriage (you say he's a great guy) and a solid relationship by fooling around with the ex? You would have to let your conscience be your guide while making your decision.
2007-01-26 03:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you serious. wow. well i am going to say it like this. you already made your choice by marrying your husband. if there was any doubt before, you never should have gotten married. you dont know how your ex really is now. he could be just trying to sleep with you or something and then leaving. your husband is being faithful to you, so why would you leave him. you say he is a great guy. well that great guy needs a great girl. if you cant be that then leave him and let him go on his own.
2007-01-26 06:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am not going to pass judgment on you like some have here ,because i feel that No one and yes i said No one knows what they might do if temptation is put before them . it is easy to say i would never let this happen, but i don't think we really know what we might do if we are in constant contact with an EX. so if you want to save your marriage my advise is to end all and i mean all contact with the EX. meaning sister you need a new job. so the choice is yours i hope you make the right one.and no one gets hurt. because as thrilling as an affair might seem . its just as hurtful to the cheated spouse ,anyway you take care and good luck .
2007-01-26 03:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you were probably still in love with your ex when you got married and for you to feel this way when you are still a newleywed is just wrong you should have never have gotten married because you are not over your ex just remember that he is an ex for a reason and that if it didn't work the first time then it probably wouldn't work the 2nd time
2007-01-26 02:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon. NO NO NO NO
You are falling in love with a memory. With a "whatif"
Never take that fantasy out of your imagination.
Most likely you will lose both of them.
You made a commitment to love, honor, be faithful. So, keep that promise. You will get over it. Chalk it up to a crush. NEVER let it become more than that. You would be a tramp. And why would anyone ever trust your word.
Just make up your mind and get over it
2007-01-26 02:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by sugarsweetsweetiepie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand your situation. Look at all these people on here so quick to throw stones...I know you love your husband but its not easy to get over an ex that you really cared about. I am in the same boat. I love my husband to death (been married for five years) but when I hear my ex's voice (we're just really good friends), I get butterflies like I did when I was sixteen. I pray and ask to get over him but it occasionally hits me all over again like a ton of bricks and I start listening to music to reminisce. I never want to cheat but I do want to see him, talk, laugh, reminisce, maybe kiss. I would never have sex with another man. girl, I know its not easy. My ex and I actually worked together last year for six monhts. I was so happy just to see his face but we never got into anything....Pray about it. Try to focus more on getting to know your husband....i WISH U THE BEST
2007-01-27 18:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Luscious L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow. in all fairness i would want to be honest AND NOT MAKE IT ANY WORSE. do you think that your reasons of marring the guy were for the wrong reasons? search yourself and be sure of what you want long term in the marriage and if it is with whatever dude then just be honest. or fall back in love with the guy you married- spend time in love. take care
2007-01-26 02:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by Scot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋