My husband and I have been married 4 years. We have been together 7. I love him with all my heart. We have 2 kids, a 3 year old and a one year old. Well he is 28 and is still immature. he works , sleeps and plays video games all day. I stay at home because our son was born 23 weeks early and has medical problems. Well my husband doesnt help around the house or anything. We havent well you know in over a year. He says that he is always tired or he is playing a game or watching sports. I am tired of this and have told him. He hasnt changed. We have gone through theropy and still nothing. I do love him but am tired of the BS what do I do?
2007-01-25 18:41:15 · 12 answers · asked by lil_sis458 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is not gay and does not have any friends except on his Xbox live.
2007-01-25 18:53:36 · update #1
ok I will tell you more. He never compliments me because he said that he married me and that is good enough. I know that love is blind. Before him I was in an abusive relationship and he got me out. he wasnt always like this. It happened after my daughter was born. He doesnt believe in giving gifts for any holiday not even Bday. And that is fine. I told him just write on a piece of paper I love you. I am afraid that if I leave he will disown his kids and I will not be able to make it. I have no job , no money and my family well thats a different story. Thank you all for your answers they are helping.
2007-01-25 19:01:56 · update #2
One more thing, sorry. He works the night shift from 10pm to 6:30am. He leaves home at 9:30 pm and gets home 9 or 10am. Yes his paychekcs prove that he is at work. But then he comes home to sleep for 8 hours. If I am lucky I get 4. So the point is that I never see him. We have not slept in the same bed for 3 years. Ok that is all.
2007-01-25 19:04:11 · update #3
If I could do it then so can you!
My daughter was born premature, and I had a four year old son too.
My husband treated me like crap for years.
I never had 'any' family in this country U.S.A. to help me during the tough times, so I simply made up my mind 'Where there's a will, there's a way'! This man doesn't care diddly about you!
And he sure doesn't give a hoot about the kids, if he did he would treat you (their mother) a lot
better AND he'd spend more time with them.
He'd also want to make their (your) home a happy, healthy enviroment if he loved you guys!!
So your son was born prematurely, well so was my daughter, and when she was eight months old we left. I had saved enough for the first month rent on a Apt, and we left. Then I got a job working six hours a day.
I filed for devorce..I filed for gov housing and
some help with food stamps. It took a little while
but it 'all' worked out. We have been devorced for over 30 years now, and i'd do it all again if I
had to!! I guess you need to ask yourself what
you are willing to allow, cause whatever you allow is exactly what you'll get!!
2007-01-25 19:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, sounds like this relationship is one sided to say the least. This man is 28 years old and still thinks he's a teenager. He has a total lack of responsibility for you and your children. If he hasn't changed by now in all the years you have been together, what makes you think he ever will. Some men do change but I've seen a lot more who don't. When you are not having sex for a year, he's either gone gay on you or he's cheating. Your being used and it's time to put an end to it. You are not the maid of the house and if your doing things for him, then stop right now. He needs to learn to grow up and do things for himself and for you.
Love is blind and deaf and dumb. We love someone and we don't tend to see or hear anything that person does as being bad because we want so much to keep them, I think because we get so used to having them around. I wish I knew a clean cut answer, but follow your heart. Good luck
2007-01-26 02:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Cool Callie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. If your husband is good at Halo 2, then he should try and participate in the MLG tournaments. Put all that time to use and win some tourneys and that will bring back a couple thousand, then if he does win, he will have a high chance to be contracted.
Get a good team together and join the Pro Tour. If his team becomes as good as Carbon or Final Boss he will probably get contracted for millions of dollars over a span of 3 years or so.
Plus add in sponsors and you guys will be rich and he can game all he wants cause it is his job.
The pro tour can be very stressful because you need to play good and to win, to earn money.
2007-01-27 14:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by wasup710 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what? I'm the same. I'm 23 and my husband is 23, we have no kids but he plays video games 24/7, doesn't clean up around the house, but he wants sex when he isn't playing his videos. I wrote a question on here because of this but i also have fallen back in love with my ex. I am so confused so i don't have an answer for you but i know exactly what u going through. and i have only been married for 1 month. Does marriage always start out rocky? I thought it was all lovey dovey for the first bit. We were but then when i started to feel for me ex again it died down coming from me. I feel horrible and don't know what to do
2007-01-26 02:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by curiouskitty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long can you keep going like this? Is it fair to yourself to not have sex, companionship or care in your relationship? I can see that you would have difficulty in leaving if you have no money etc.. but I think you have to do something about it.... If therapy hasnt worked and he is not willing to try, it doesnt leave much. You will have to start looking at ways that you can support yourself, or get help from friends or family. There must be support groups of some sort, see what you can find out. I wish you luck and hope things work out for you....
2007-01-26 08:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by Eve M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS CHEATING GIRL. Open your eyes, if he gets off work at 630 and doesn't get home until three to four hours later, he has someone else. He probably won't leave you afraid of the child support he would have to pay. No man goes without sex for a year I don't care who he is or what he says.
2007-01-30 01:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by Angeleyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw him out and don't put up with him!! It is good to love someone but far better when they love you in return and he doesn't from what you have said. if you file for divorce he may change his ways but if not, you will be better off finding soneone who is supportive and not just there for the free room and board.
2007-01-26 02:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out before things get worse. Enough is enough.
2007-01-26 02:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask someone who he realy close 2 advice him...
n tell him ow do u fell bout his attitude
2007-01-26 02:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by prime-G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about divorce?
2007-01-26 02:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by matthew o 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋