what's called true love when parents, siblings and friends aren't happy when i'm really down. instead of rendering their support they quit. when i really do well they shower me with lots of love(?). i beleive our love should be standard at all times. i don't know how many of you will agree with me. please write....with love
2007-01-25 18:27:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I agree with you, love shouldn't change according to certain situations, but, maybe they don't understand that you are feeling down and need their support, that doesn't mean they don't love you....they just don't realize what you need. Try talking to them, when they are showering you with love, then there will be no pressure, and they can be honest with you. Good Luck.
2007-01-25 18:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you expecting them to know how bad you are feeling without communicating your emotions to them? You need to ask one of them if you can talk with them about your feelings before taking the negative thought too far that they don't care! Haven't you heard of people who hurt themselves and their family members were devastated because they were unable to sense the despair of their loved one? If they shower you with love for your wonderful charismatic personality, that means they enjoy and love you. However, don't feel that you are not entitled to a bad day now and then, as we all have them. You may be the "sunshine" to your family and friends and they are not in tune to the fact that you are down sometimes. You ARE lovable! Just LOVE yourself as well. Don't put too many expectations on others as you are apparently viewed as the strong one! People don't live by any sort of standard as life throws too many unexpected responsibilities and problems our way. Just learn to roll with the punches and enjoy the good that comes your way. Relax and enjoy what you do for others! It is a GIFT!
2007-01-25 18:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideally love should be unconditional--that is the truest and purest love as it lays no conditions down. It is not taught, You are either raised with it or not. Sometimes spouses pass it on because either one or both were raised that way. Those who know they are loved unconditionally are usually happier as they feel it every day.
2007-01-25 18:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They try to ignore the negative behavior and praise the positive behavior. I think everyone in the world does this.
When you are down and need someone to talk to, just let them know how you are feeling and you need support. They are not mind readers. Sometimes you just need to say SUPPORT ME DANG IT! lol
Good Luck, Take Care and Lots of HUGS to you, hunny!
2007-01-25 18:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by Daft One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they still LOVE you deep down, just because they dont show it doesnt mean they dont love you..........but yea you are right if its true love it should be no matter what
2007-01-25 18:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they still love you but if you do something to cause yourself to be down then they could be fed up or dissapointed.
2007-01-25 18:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋