My friend has "been" with this guy for about 3+ years now. She is 99% of the time miserable with him, because she wants a real relationship, and he denies her that and only seems to ever want sex, which she will happily give. I have tried to talk to her about this, and she agrees but in two weeks, the second he talks to her, she is back at his house, and the same cycle starts all over again. If she starts dating someone else, he makes her feel horrible about it and then eventually she will go back to him. Its unbelievable. Does he seriously like her, or is he just afraid of losing a reliable "good time." and as a friend, at what point can i just brush this off?
2007-01-25 18:18:45 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Television
You need to back off and let your friend figure out she is an idiot all on her own. The second you try to figure it for her, your friendship will end, and you will be left out in the cold, and she will hate for some damn thing or another. Unless she asks, and i mean begs for your advice or support, just don't be a part of it. Not if you want to continue being her friend anyway.
No, He doesn't love her, and he is only concerned about whatever he wants at that moment, he is a c*ck sucker and doesn't deserve her, and blah blah blah...she lets him pull this crap, so it's actually her fault, and thats the truth.
Personally, I wouldn't want such a loser with such little self respect and virtually no self esteem for a friend, but that's just me i guess.
2007-01-25 18:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your friend credit for knowing what she is doing. Probably mind your own business would be the best advice anyone could give you. Are you sure that your friend is the one being used? It sounds like after 3 years of this ,the couple in question know exactly what they are in for and have set their own rules for this relationship.You should have 'brushed it off' long ago. It is her life, but it does sound like maybe she places to low a value on herself. Help her see why she is better than what she is getting, but in the end it is her choice, not yours. Even though you only have her best interest at heart. Let it go before it backfires on you ,and you are the friend she cuts the ties with. You are all rather young aren't you? Once you are out of high school, you will see that life changes, planned or not. We all move on to bigger and better things. Old toys are forgotten. New ties are made. It will likely die a natural death all by itself.
2007-01-26 02:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he's just keeping her on a string while not really wanting her for himself. That having been said, you can't make your friend do anything and trying will only damage your relationship. When she does complain, tell her she can do better and should do better but just let her vent. She'll either do something or she won't, but it's her decision.
2007-01-26 02:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋