Long story short. 4 years ago my wife started cheating on me with a friend of mine. 3 years ago I finally get sick of her insanity and move out. She drove me out really with her irrational behavior. She had lied to me and I never knew that she had cheated, in fact, i never even suspected it. She blamed the fact that she didn't want to try to make it work because, "i left" and she could never trust me again.
So I had been carrying around this guilt that it was all my fault if only I hadn't left etc... Well, 10 days ago my friend tells me that he had been with my ex wife for a year during and 2 years after my wedding ended. Karma got him though because she did the exact same thing to him.
In his case, it was obvious she was cheating whereas in mine it was not. However, he still had doubts, he couldn't be sure. So I confronted her and she apologized for what she had done to me. So I ask her about the other fella' and she denied having cheated on him. But she's lying. Im confused now.
2007-01-25 18:17:22 · 3 answers · asked by warweaver 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well. There's another part see. She blamed me for everything, said I was a horrible person and I believed her for three years. 10 days ago I discovered the truth and confronted her, then I confronted him. He felt terrible about it but was very forthcoming. Basically though, when I found out the truth I honestly felt like I had restarted the healing process. She's also lying to the guy so he's making a puzzle thats missing the most important piece. I feel like everyone should have the information they need to heal, so, I jacked her phone records using her cell # which she gave me and a password that he somehow knew and had mentioned. I broke down 2 years' worth of her calls which reveal obviously and clearly that she's a cheating liar. Im strugging at the moment because I still feel very deeply for her and we had worked things out at least friendship wise. But I had to admit cracking her account b/c lying is no way to start - so her irrational hatred started all over again.
2007-01-25 19:01:29 · update #1
Long story short? Too late! Dang!
2007-01-25 18:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what your question is? She sheated on you and more than likely cheated on oyur buddy. I am not sure if you wanna stay buddies with that guy anyways because he was with your ex but never said anything until now about it. I would just drop this guy as a friends and drop your ex. STOP talking to them both. You will never more on if you continue to talk to her. Change your phone number and email if you have to! YOu seem to need drama, you need to stop with the drama. She's a slut! Get over it and move on. Unless you want to hear over and over how she hurt you and who she screwed, then you have more serious issues to address with a therapist
2007-01-26 02:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry this happened to you.
After my marriage had ended, I also came across something like this; however, I was lucky none of my friends was involved. Still, you need to just forget about her, it's a waste of time, all the what if's and so on...your friend, I guess he got what was coming to him...be more careful the next time!
2007-01-26 02:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋