THERE IS NO LOVE IN MY MARRAGE..I HAVE A 7 YEAR OLD CHILD AND I HAVE FOUND A WOMAN I LIKE ....WHAT SHALL I DO ?
2007-01-25 17:57:42 · 24 answers · asked by RAG H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First I like to say, that I really feel for the three of you....but, if that is what you are feeling, than be honest with your wife and separate amicably so that your child will not be another statistic....
2007-01-25 18:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no point in staying in a loveless marriage. So many people think once you are married thats it, you can never leave. I am no fan of divorce, but through the experience of my parents, one thing i have learned is that staying in an unhappy marriage will do more harm than good, especially to your child. Children are much smarter than we give them credit for and they pick up on the tension surrounding their parents. And it only makes them confused and unsure - they feel torn between mum and dad. My advice is to leave. if you dont want to rush into a divorce then maybe try a trial separation, see how you go. You may miss each other and get back together or you may realise that its time to call it quits. Good luck...
2007-01-25 19:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy why are you staying in your marriage to begin with? Are you just waiting or something better to come along before you make the leap out of it?
That said, running from one relationship to another never works either. You never have time to process and fix the things in yourself that contributed to your marriage going down the tubes. And believe me, you are just as much at fault as your wife. It takes two to tango. Everything is a cause and effect.
When you run to another relationship it seems great for awhile. It's all fairytale with this other woman right now. Wait until everyday life settles in, then one morning you wake-up and realize it's the same old sh*t, just a different person laying next to you. Why? Because you never straightened out yourself and got rid of your baggage from your previous relationship/marriage first. Thus, you've doomed your new relationship to failure before it really begun.
2007-01-25 19:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Rag H,
Follow your heart! its easy for everyone to give advice and say stay in your marriage..you have taken the vow ...for the sake of children etc....
But that will do more harm to everyone involved in the relationship. dont stay in your marriage just for the sake of kids. Coming from such a family there is nothing more painful that watching you parents fight every day or not talk for months.
It affects the kids too much. As you know everything you know, you learn from your parents. you are supposed to be a role model and show them what love is. Better for the kid to grow up in a loving surroundings than with parents who do not like each other.
You know your family. if you think you can salvage your marriage, save it. go to the marriage counselor..see what you can do to correct it.
If there is no hope, get out of that relationship and let everyone live happy!
Good luck!
2007-01-25 18:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can get a divorce and maybe the next one will work out. Or maybe in 7 years there will be no love in that marriage either.
Why not wake up tommorow and go tell your wife these three words. I love you.
Love is a decision you decide who you will love. Right now you are choosing not to love your wife. and if you keep going with your feelings then someday yoyru feelings will change and you will go thru many marriages in your life.
2007-01-25 18:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by xxgq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was something when the marriage started. Somewhere along the line one or both of you stopped working at the marriage. An investment of 7 years isn't that great...on the other hand, such an investment shouldn't be discarded without serious consideration. You might start by going to counseling, either just for yourself or perhaps you and your spouse. How does she feel about the "love" in your marriage? Remember, at one time you thought she was worth pursuing...ask yourself what has changed, you or her, or both? Investigate. You need to information to help you in your own future.
2007-01-25 18:05:50 · answer #6 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW, made a promise in front of GOD, your wife, yourself, and probably eveyone that both of you care about.... You are no longer a marrage, you are a FAMILY, Grow up, the problem is most likely you. Is it your Marriage that is bland, or your life? If your life is bland, then 90% of that is probably your job. As for the woman you like... YOU ARE A MARRIED DAAAAAD. Holy He** people...
2007-01-25 18:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by picalibur 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
see a family therapist. Then divorce if you have to,. But you will be putting the child through hell. If you cheat, you are scum and deserve a life of unhappyness
2007-01-25 18:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fix the marriage. If not, get a divorce before you even consider having an affair. n
2007-01-25 18:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spare your wife and child the agony and move on. Divorce is easier for children when they are young, it gets harder on them as they get older, they belive it is their fault. Move on before it is too late.
2007-01-29 17:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by Angeleyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋