It seems that most straight and gay people feel that you cannot honestly be bisexual. But is that true? If I honestly think about it I think that it is completely possible(expereince speaking here)
What do you think?
2007-01-25 17:56:15 · 14 answers · asked by Amy L 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It seems to me that is a little closed minded to say its not possible. It is something I have struggled with and its not a phase. I am 26 years old. I am not a littel tenny girl trying to impress the boys. KWIM?
2007-01-25 18:04:41 · update #1
Umm..yes I know who I am attracted to. I was hoping for some views on why people see it as one way or the other. It si not a choice becuase if it were I would make it..
2007-01-25 18:21:35 · update #2
I am glad others see it that way.It does seem you have to belong to one club or the other. People think you are just being trendy or something. But I am not. It does get complicated though..
2007-01-25 18:43:53 · update #3
Yes, it's truly possible. I'm living proof.
Yes, I've had emotionally fulfilling relationships with both males and females, granted more so with females, but I truly cannot say if anything were to happen to my current relationship...if my next relationship would be with a man or a woman.
I find both genders attractive. Both genders to be beautiful for different reasons.
I really get upset with those who think that being bi just means that we're greedy or indecisive. I'm neither. I know what I want and gender plays little of a role in that. I know what attracts me, and it's rarely a specific gender.
I have never cheated on a partner, I'm a monogamous person. I am not poly amorous..although I will admit to a tiny bit of jealousy for those who are. I cannot fathom having more than one partner at a time. It's just not who I am.
Honestly, I've never struggled with this at all. I only struggled with accepting that I infact am attracted to females as well as males...and took a really long time to finally accept that most of my most fulfilling relationships have been with women. Not that I hate men, I certainly don't.
I have a dear lesbian friend who for a while couldn't accept that I was bisexual. She absolutely refused to admit it and would only call me lesbian. Everytime I reminded her that I'm actually bisexual a small shudder would come over her.
Many of my friends assume I'm lesbian because my partner for the past ten+ years has been another female.
I'm quite happy in our relationship and don't feel I'm missing out of anything. But, I'm still bi.
2007-01-26 03:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It IS possible, but even so, bisexuals don't seem to like both sexes equally, and they DO have a preference. Also, in relationships, most people want to be in couples, NOT in a triangle, and nobody wants to share their lover with a third wheel on the side when the relationship evolves! It is difficult enough for 2 people to discover each other and grow old together without adding another person into the mix. And yes, lots of self-proclaimed bisexuals ARE gay, too but they feel the need to hide it. And most of the time when a bisexual commits, there is a decision made to be either monogamous or polygmous, and the lovers involved must either accept or decline the terms. It seems that long term relationships will work better when it is between two people rather than three. It is not all about what society wants, but it's common sense that biesexuals are somewhat greedy and it takes 2 to make the thing go right!
2007-01-25 19:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm struggling with this too. All through high school, I only thought about boys. But ever since my first boy love at age 19, I have thought about girls. This has been going on for more than a decade and my attraction is just getting stronger and stronger for women. I have dated only men all along but pretty casually, but I do love the sex with them. I want so much to try a woman, but I'm very nervous. I don't know how to tell if they would be up for it, plus I'm not sure I could handle the consequences within society.
2007-01-26 03:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another question regarding bisexual.
Short answer: Are you attracted to the opposite sex and to the same sex, you are bisexual. There is no thinking regarding sexual preference.
Longer answer: Unfortunately most people are not aware of the sexual preference. You can see this in married couples that split because one or both have found a relationship with the same sex.
Final answer: If you have to think about your sexual perference, you have no idea what you prefer.
2007-01-25 18:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by J. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible to be truly be bisexual.
I have had LTR with men and with women.
I have been in love with both men and women.
Being bi means I can have the best of both worlds.
The people who don't understand and don't want to are the ones that are at either end of the sexual spectrum that Anglepaws mentioned.
Most people gay, or straight don't realize the just like sexuality, gender is fluid as well. 1 in 2000 people have ambiguous genitalia, that is they have genitalia of both male and female.
2007-01-25 18:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by ajtheactress 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to be equally attracted to both sexes, however most bisexuals tend to lean towards one sex more than the other - this doesn't make them any more or less bisexual, as the definition of bisexuality is an attraction to both sexes (not necessarily equally). Bisexuals are capable of monogamity. However, like homosexuals and heterosexuals, there are some who don't want to settle down - and indeed choose a lifestyle which suits their own needs. Basically, it all depends on what the person wants. There are many bisexuals who settle down with one partner, and who forego any casual play with other people.
2016-05-24 00:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible to be truly bisexual. Bottom line is everyone should love who they love. I am very much attracted to other women and have enjoyed a couple of them in the past but I'm married to a man because he was who I fell in love with.
2007-01-25 18:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by just jenn 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, it is possible to be truly bi-sexual.
avechm, Not all bi-sexuals are partially closeted homosexuals either; when I first came out, I thought I was a lesbian, but later in life I realized I was actually bi-sexual. It's not easy to admit in some circles. Like I gotta belong to ONE club or the other. jeeeeez.
2007-01-25 18:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by Alias400 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible i am attracted to both sexex, and have the urge for them both. When i want a man only a man can fulfill my needs, and when i want a women only a women can fulflll my needs.
2007-01-27 14:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human sexuality is fluid. With 100% homosexual at one end and 100% heterosexual at the other. NO person is at the furthest point of either end. So yes, true bisexuality IS possible.
2007-01-25 18:07:35 · answer #10 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋