what is wrong with me?

Question

i never want to be around people, most of the time i just hide out in my room, im home-schooled with a computer type program so i dont have to leave my room for that, and i have a ton of liquid and lots of books, so i rarely leave my room at all, and my dad has to actually force me to eat, i have no idea what is going on

Answer 1

The less time you spend with other people, the more your social skills suffer. You will feel more at ease taking refuge in your room until you find something outside of your room that is more appealing than your existing comfort zone.

Volunteering might be a good way to improve your sense of purpose and desire to be an active member of society. You'll gain so much by giving of yourself. Joining an extra curricular class or club of interest may also give you a reason to look forward to leaving your room. There are many options, from sports, to social, to creative, to academic (book clubs, writing groups, etc.).

Explore your interests and enhance your skills or try something new. You'll be amazed at the boost you'll feel. Being stuck in your room will also deprive you of the natural sunlight and exercise a person needs to have a positive mood. Be sure to get out for daily walks.
Take care...

Answer 2

It could also be Avoidant Personality Disorder. Here's a good writeup:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder

However, there's so much going on with you that you really ought to see a therapist or psychiatrist to have him/her sort it out.
The business about being forced to eat indicates that it's affecting your life in a way that's not healthy. The "loners" described by another responder at least take care of themselves that way.

Unfortunately, because you're home-schooled a school counselor isn't available. The people who claim home-schooling is better than public schooling either overlook or don't notice the fact that public schools provide services - such as counseling - that can't be accessed at home.

You really should get to a professional psychologist or social worker if you can. Try suggesting it to your parents. If they don't bite, it's up to you. Sometimes the local hospitals will have free "wellness" programs that can provide at least some counseling in the context of group sessions.

Why not call a local hospital, ask them for free counseling services or mental health programs, and see what they say? If they have none, you might be able to squeeze a recommendation out of them.

Good Luck,
Big Al Mintaka

FOLLOWUP: back again. Do you guys have a church? It sounds a bit strange, but free counseling can always be gotten through a church. If you have a church, why not give them a call or go there to see if they have any programs or one-on-one sessions with clergy or lay workers? It's better than having to pay for sessions.

Answer 3

You could have agoraphobia, which is the fear of experiencing a difficult or embarassing situation (could explain why you don't leave your room). Or you could have social anxiety disorder, which is the fear of social situations and (negative) evaluation of others. These can all rise from various mental problems, such as low-self esteem, depression, anxiety/stress, etc... I also agree with Warren Peace that Hikikomori could be your problem.

The first thing to do is consider going to school (as opposed to being homeschool). You can't get better by doing things that will only make things worse (in this case: isolation). Then consider seeing a therapist or psychologist to receive different methods and advice for helping various conditions related to your problem (such as cognitive excercises to help with low-self esteem). If that doesn't help then consider seeing a psychiatrist for medical drugs.

I recommend the drugs as a last resort though - there's a good chance the regular school combined with exercises taught to you by a therapist/psychologist may help out and drugs can sometimes make things more difficult. I recommend reading the two wikipedia articles in my resouces to see if they match your problem and referring to Warren Peace's resources for information on Hikikomori. Good luck!

Answer 4

Dont worry about it.You may be a genuine loner like me--who prefers her own company to t hat of babbling fools --or yopu may just be going through a phase. Depends how old you are, Take no notice of anyone who says that you must socialise. Most people out t here prefer to be with other people rather than be alone with their own thoughts but if you prefer solitude so be it. It will probably change as you grow. You might become a party animal in a few months or years Onlu time will tell. Until then enjoy your own company!!!!!

Answer 5

Hi, im very sorry to hear about your situation, but you arent alone
im homeschooled too, only i dont do my work online, i go through a school in florida that sends me my work through the mail
but i too know the feeling of being in your room all day, with basically no one and nothing but your computer and school work
its very boring and lonely
if you really want to be alone that is your choice- i know i dont want to go back to public school for the same reason
im not sure about you but i battle low self esteem, im not sure if you have the same problem but thats my reason

but know that you are never alone in the way you are feeling and if you ever want to talk about it, my email is in my profile
:)

Answer 6

Home schooling is probably the cause of this.
How long have you been home schooled? The best thing about going to an actual school (besides learning stuff) is that you're forced to interact - and guess what? most of the time you're likely to enjoy the interaction.. and ultimately learn to love the company of others.
You seem to lack this element, which I suspect is due to the home schooling. Quit home-school, and check yourself into a real school

Answer 7

Could be depression too. I know some people that are so depressed they dont want to do things too. I would suggest that you go see a psychiatrist or a therapist of some sort about the situation.

Answer 8

low self esteem and low confidence are what is going on.

You need to put yourself out there, as much as you don't want to, and meet people and experience life. It will take time for you to want to do it, and be comfortable doing it, but it will get easier and better.

Maybe see about not being home schooled, and going to school instead

Answer 9

Force yourself to go out and then talk to someone. Ask a benign question like what they think about the weather you are having. Force yourself to do it.

Answer 10

In Japan, this condition is very common and it's known as Hikikomori. Google this and you'll find out more.