My mom loves my 5 year old more than my 4 year old. She will even tell you this. (but she doesn't tell the youngest that) She has a stronger bond with the oldest cause he was born the day her mom passed away. She watches my oldest twice as much as my youngest as well. She gives excusses sometimes and says he's just easier to deal with. Should she be choosing my oldest over the youngest? I've tried to talk to her about this. And the result was actually coming to get the youngest... she didn't before.
2007-01-25 16:58:34 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's probably something she can't control. As long as she doesn't show it to the younger child it should be okay.
Try not to have your feelings hurt by it. It sounds like it would be painful. In my family situation, my Mom is closer to my oldest child. Each child has a different personality and a different way of interacting with each relationship they have. My Mom tries not to show favoritism but I know it's there and I just accept my Mom for who she is and the love she has to share with my children. Time children have with grandparents doesn't last very long. Just try to take it for what it is and enjoy your time with your mom.
2007-01-25 17:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by kindness 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It happens! I think every child in every family is a favorite to someone different then the other! For instance---I am the eldest child I am spoiled by my grandfather the most...next in line is my brother-he is spoiled the most my my grandmother-and the yougest-my other brother is spoiled my mother! All of us are equally love, but most important we have someone we can turn to in times of need....it's not that she doesnt love your youngest...I am very sure she does, but yes they're are cruel people out there that turn on one and have one as the favorite. You can stop this by telling her that if she doesnt start treating the other one equally then she will not be able to see either one until this happens...!!! remember your youngest can feel the same way as you see this or understand it...and it may hurt him as this is happening.....only you can enforce this on her, and so on....hope i have helped....good luck!
2007-01-25 17:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it is that we are all human, and being just that, we have a tendency to 'connect' with some- more than others.
Take for example - 3 sisters - though they will love each other, when a problem comes along - they will connect with one sister over the other. The same with children and parents - one child will usually 'connect' with one parent - hence "Daddy's little girl".
I just believe its about connection, but doesn't mean they are loved less.
2007-01-25 17:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by Elke 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whether you accept it or not, this does exist. You are powerless over your moms love for your 5 year old over your 4 year old. Sorry for the rude awakening, but she will always favor the 5 year old. I lived this. My sons grandma to this day still favors him over my youngest son.
2007-01-25 17:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she there grandma she should love them both with just as much care
im the youngest out of three and we had this problem with my dad ....at first he would just like me then my bro then my sis and it would keep going like this finally as we got older he took us all in a equal indeviduals and treated us all the same
so what my point is is that things will get better and eventuallky she'll get over herself and just accept both of them as equelly as the other
2007-01-25 17:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 01:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by lesure 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a grandma should love her grand kids equally... thats not right !! If she continues to act like that when the kids are older ... the ones she doenst favor will find out and want no part of her... thats what happened in my family..... but i guess she deserves that since shes picking favorites
2007-01-25 17:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
and i thought the younger the more loved. i never heard of anyone choose a child like . one will go to college the other won't one i love a lot the other just a little. i never seen that before only on EVERYBODY LOVES RAYMOND.
2007-01-25 17:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love no- Bond with yes, its just a personality thing
2007-01-25 17:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
no a grandma should not love one kid over the other she should love them the same
2007-01-25 17:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋