and I ... or should I just give up now and be lonely forever?
2007-01-25 16:43:57 · 14 answers · asked by heart2heart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you so much everyone so far! I was really having a rough day okay to be honest a rough year.... Yes I love my kids more than anything but I just want to share these moments (you know day to day about the kids) with someone. To top it off today is my birthday and my heart hurts so bad. I put on my happy face today and did the mom/daughter/friend thing but to be honest I am very sad tonight. My heart is not just broken from lonliess.. I think the biggest thing is fear that I cannot meet the needs of my kids .. I am really really scared! Everyone keeps saying how proud they are of me and how strong I am but what they dont know is I sure dont feel strong.
2007-01-26 17:21:04 · update #1
of course there is hope. you will find someone that loves you and everything about you including your kids. good luck :)
2007-01-25 16:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I got a divorce my kids were 4 and 6, My ex and I, have an agreement that we share the kids 1/2 time. We promised that neither would move out of town, taking the kids, and our new relationships have to be understanding to our unique situation.
He broke my heart, I left him the house, took my clothes and moved out. I felt the same as you for 5 years, when I stoped wanting a new relationship, and focused on myself, bought a house, new car, got a great job, I just bumped into him, literally, Rick is everything in a partner that I could have hoped or dreamed for we got married July 1st. 2006. He is awesome with the kids, they adore him and he they. My ex and his girlfriend attended. We all have a great relationship, and the only reason we do is because of two wonderful little boys that we all love. which are now 10 and 12. It is out there, but then again you have to love yourself and your kids first, when you can do that the right person is waiting to be bumped into. Hang on, be strong, and take care of #1.
God Bless
2007-01-25 17:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by Pig_Pig 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What matters more than anything right now are those kids. You need to be strong for them. Take classes or find a hobby, show THEM that you can be strong. And who knows...maybe some time in the future (when the time is right) you will find that special someone. Please don't fall into the trap of thinking that no one will love you because you have kids, it's just not true. But also know that you have to protect the kids from anyone who would treat them poorly. So, don't rush things. I promise, things WILL get better.
2007-01-25 16:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is hope. After a 17 year marriage I found the person I had been looking for my entire life. I have never been happier. And I do have 3 kids, who are better off knowing and loving him.
2007-01-25 17:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first wife and i broke up after nineteen years of marriage, we had two children. It took a while but i met a wonderful understanding woman who was divorced and had a child of her own. We have been married for six years now and could not be happier. And the grand children add to that happiness.
2007-01-25 16:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by MUSHMAN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's to give up? You have your children and yourself. What more can you ask? Why is it so important to find someone to love you and your kids? Love EACH other! You've witnessed what the last guy offered you. Why do THAT again? ENJOY your kids, and your newfound independence and freedom!!!
2007-01-25 17:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
confident, no longer a chuffed existence, in spite of the undeniable fact that it is interior your powers to keep away from it from being an entire life of misery. the challenge with the final guy is obviously a distinction in concept and subsequently value of your conferences. For you - an entire international of memories and emotions is at the back of it. For him - purely a promise of a speedy, no string related, romance. IF he enjoyed you, you will been jointly 3 years in the past. in spite of the undeniable fact that, he's married to the lady he loves, in spite of the justifications for his "no practice". comprehend it and a futility of any extra suitable contacts. do no longer provide him a delight of seeing your harm. it is humiliating for you, and kinda stroking his ego. think of which you have in no way waited for him, and behave consequently. So, divorce your husband and get busy with all different interesting and important stuff on your existence (occupation? hobbies?), once you're the two legally and emotionally loose. once you end searching for love, that's going to locate you.
2016-09-28 00:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be lonely forever. Get out of the house, join a gym, talk to your neighbors and family, work on your hobbies. Pretty soon you will wonder if dating is worth all the bother, but make time for it then.
2007-01-25 17:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont ever give up hope! there is someone for everyone and hes out there. just keep the faith. until he comes your way. do something fun, something you have always wanted to do and you ex had a problem with it. live life to the fullest. enjoy your freedom, and independence, love your kids and yourself. go splurge on something nice , let fate take its course. Best of luck to ya
2007-01-25 18:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by tx_lady_806 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No , never give up . Just because you're single doesn't mean you have to be lonely . Don't rely on another person for your own happiness .
2007-01-25 17:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋