im 14
2007-01-25 16:42:49 · 9 answers · asked by hot stuff 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
At 14, you really should not be pressured to do anything. Read up on famous gay people like Harvey Milk, Barney Frank, Walt Whitman. See if there are any clubs in your area for gay kids. If you can, find an adult counselor with whom you can share your questions.
Take things slow. Find your allies. Try to take care of your education and your physical health. You will have a great life.
2007-01-25 18:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you think you're gay, then just see what happens is my best recommendation.
It could be both a phase, or actually gay at 14. I'm 15 and totally sure I'm gay, just by evaluating my life, and how long I've thought I was gay.
I really recommend just living your life and seeing what happens. If time goes by and you realize that you are gay, then fine. If time goes by and you realize it was just a phase, then fine. Just see what happens. Have an open mind is my best advice.
I also suggest going to any gay clubs that might be in your area. I don't mean gay clubs as in a bar, or anything like that. If you've ever heard of a GSA, go to one of those. It stands for Gay Straight Alliance, it's sort of like a youth group, centered around discussing gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning issues (and straight people can come obviously). But yeah, that would be a great thing for you to do, especially if you are skeptical about gay people and a little homophobic. I assume you aren't very homophobic, as you are okay with discussing the topic...
2007-01-26 02:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other answers in that at 14 years old, you might be too young to know and understand your sexual and gender identity. That being said, it is also very possible that at 14, you already know who you are and who you are attracted to. You are at the beginning of the crucial coming-of-age process that everyone goes through, and everyone goes through differently. I personally realized I was gay, or at least attracted to guys, when I was 11 or 12. I have friends who realized earlier than that, and also much later. Everyone grows up differently and has different experiences that shape the person they become in adulthood. Basically what I am trying to say is you are the only person who can say who you are, what you want to be when you grow up, who you are attracted to, etc.
To answer your "what do I do," at your age, I would recommend learning about the queer community-at-large, as well as the local queer community in your hometown. There are many great resources on the internet (see below), but use caution. I assume at 14 you have started or are soon going to start high school. Depending on the size of your school, there may be a queer group where you can meet other students who are going through the same thing you are. They are often formed as GSA's or Gay-Straight Alliances. School groups and community youth groups are the safest way to meet other people, and at your age these are the only groups I would get involved in.
Above all that, rest assured your questions will be answered with time as you mature and learn more about yourself. Teenhood is a time of great self-discovery.
2007-01-26 05:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by Tim K 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its possible to know at 14 in fact i didn't know until i was at least........wait no i was 9. Everyone who tells you your confused could very well be full of crap. but honestly at 14 the only recomendation i can give you is dont TRY to be gay. so many people assume that because they are gay they must imediately talk in a squeaky voice develop a lisp break thier wrists and join the theatre. THIS IS NOT THE CORRECT COURSE OF ACTION there are no lifestyle traits that you are required to practice to be gay be you and to hell with everyone else.
and of course as always be safe and that includes (when the time comes) USE A CONDOM. dont sleep with people you meet online. dont rush to sleep with anyone.but most important USE A CONDOM EVERY TIMEYOU SLEEP WITH ANYONE. if you think that its going to be difficult to tell your parents your gay try adding "oh and im going to die of aids" to the conversation. and as always dont take candy from strangers.
2007-01-26 05:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by blakey383 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
stay away from men. spend more time around girls. how long have you felt this way. are you aroused by females what do you fantasize about. im glad im not gay but if you are good luck and find a nice guy. just do not live a lie be honest about you r feelings
2007-01-26 09:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept it as a possibility. Don't panic to find out "answers." Human sexuality is more complicated than black and white. Just be yourself.
2007-01-26 10:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 410 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good advice above.. don't panic... don't try to redefine yourself.... just have fun with your young years... do what you enjoy and keep an eye open for an adult you know well and can trust to talk with about this, when YOU're ready//// I knew at 10 and came out to my parents at 32... and it's worked great for me... be happy.
2007-01-28 17:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 14 you cannot actually be sure -- If you are, just live your life and live it well,
2007-01-26 04:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by Kedar 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try cruising for construction workers.
2007-01-26 12:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋