2007-01-25 16:30:20 · 13 answers · asked by nikkidanica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you just do it
2007-01-25 16:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Christine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it hurts and there is no denying it. But you will get past it in time and at your own pace. No one can tell you how and when the hurt will get over---the main thing is to sit and realize that not everyone is a cheater and that everyone deserves a chance to prove that they can be mature and respectful mates. Now you also have to realize that it is not your fault---you didn't MAKE anyone cheat---a cheater is an immature, disrespectful, immoral person--no regard for you or anyone elses feelings. NEVER talk to them again--you need to stand tall, walk proud, display your integrity and dignity---the cheater should never make you feel that you are any less of a person....on the contrary--you are number one and that's final. Smile, get moving and enjoy a nice happy life
2007-01-25 16:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, you just have to get away from them. If they did it once, then they'll do it again. Still, if they don't, you'll never trust them again...even in the smallest of scenarios. There are people out there who don't cheat. Don't give up hope, just don't let a few bad bananas spoil the pudding.
Sometimes a cheat just happens. Then again, there are those who pretend to care for others, when all they care about is how much can they can better their own pathetic egos.
2007-01-25 16:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by unclewill67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop blaming yourself, know that nothing u could have done would have changed a thing, as it wasn't about u, it was about them, and the new love interest. know that this is not anyone u would ever go back with, because the same thing could happen all over again. a cheater will always find a reason to cheat, and blame it on u, to keep the focus off of them, so they don't have to be accountable, and consider yourself lucky to be rid of them, and not have to worry about them hurting u anymore. we just have to accept that this person no longer wanted us, and it had nothing to do with us, and we shouldn't let it ruin our self worth or ego, that we are not defined by what happened.
2007-01-26 00:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time to process your feelings on the situation. Do you want to move on and stay with your mate or move on without him? You can forgive without ever having to forget. From personal experience, it has scarred me for life. I'm always in the healing process and I won't let it get the best of me because I decided to stay with my mate. Time is the best remedy. The problem that often plagues us women is that we react based on our feelings and not on our beliefs/thoughts. We are generally emotional. Take some time to consider the advantages and disadvantages of the relationship. Time will heal all wounds. Even the deep ones. Keep yourself busy/entertained. Laughter and music can work wonders... Best of luck to you!
2007-01-25 17:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by lola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very difficult to do. You have to ask yourself if you are willing to forgive and forget. To REALLY move on from that and fix the marriage. (is it worth it?) If you can't, it's better to move on and get rid of the cheater. A cheating spouse does horrible things to ones selfesteem. Good luck.
2007-01-25 16:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by 2Bme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only really move on after you've gotten through this and then discovered a new love. Good luck in the search you'll be involved in shortly.
2007-01-25 16:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should take some times for yourself...and really think about the situation....and everything that has happened....take some time for yourself and then start making decisions...if your gonna stay with your spouse.....then you have a long road ahead of you and your partner has alot of learning and making up to do....and not to mention proving all over to you again that you can trust them which they need to earn back...your not the one who did wrong so they should start busting their butts and doing everything possible to work on the marriage and prove to you that they are sorry and serious about gettin on the right track again.
if you dont want to stay in the relationship then again take time for yourself and think hard about what you want to do from here on out....and find hobbies to do..try new things....go out for freinds...and dont go sleeping with a bunch to people just to rebound and try to make yourself feel better.....when your ready ...at your own pace start seeing other people...and really get to know them and communicate with them...learn from the past and apply it to your present and future...and like i said get to know the person well....take things slow and see where it goes
good luck to you....hope this helps
2007-01-25 16:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by shay and anthony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all depends on the situation... You can move of if you choose to with time and help.
2007-01-25 16:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sooo hard 2 do. Just start dating other people.
2007-01-25 16:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by TrayLuvsJay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u care for that person, u have to ignore the incident.
2007-01-25 16:49:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋