she reads to him then lays down beside him so he'll go to sleep she falls asleep also . until about 2 months ago he would sleep by himself than he started acting up
2007-01-25 16:27:32 · 21 answers · asked by gjgibson69 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you know what, i think it is perfectly healthy. She is his mother, and it is a rare thing for a 9 year old boy to have a loving relationship with his mother these days. I think that the boy has something going on, and more power to his mother for being there for him!!! i wish more parents would take a lesson from her and take a more hands on approach to parenting!
2007-01-25 20:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Tiggy's Momma 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with that. He probably just heard something scary on tv/from his friends and is now afraid of the dark. Up until I was about 9 I would get nightmares and in the middle of the night I'd move to my parents' bed and sleep with them. He will eventually grow out of it.
2007-01-26 06:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by purplmonkeez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he start acting up? Was it something tramatic?
I think what needs to be addressed here is whose needs are being met?
Is the mother doing this to comfort the child because of some tramatic experience?
Or is she doing it for her own reason for e.g. not getting along with her spouse.
9 years old is a little old for his mom to be sleeping with him. She should read to him and then go to her own bed.
2007-01-25 18:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by trishnh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's absolutely nothing wrong with the scene you just described. The United STates is one of the ONLY countries that thinks the 'family bed' , where kids are welcome to sleep in parents bed when they want, is considered bad or even dirty. Look around at our society full of grown-ups who were 1)not allowed to breastfeed or weaned early 2)put in their own cold big cribs after coming out of a warm cozy womb 3)pushed to be independent little people while they were yet babies And it's easy to see a strong argument for allowing kids to sleep in their parents bed. It provides security and comfort when they need it.
Sounds like a loving mom to me. Have you ever met a teen who sleeps with their parents every night? Yeah, he'll stop when he's ready and naturally wants his privacy. There was likely a reason he started acting up, some stressful event in his life that triggered his need for extra security at night. He'll get over it when he's ready.
2007-01-25 16:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by littleangelfire81 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is exactly what my stepmother does with her 9 year old, ever since he was little. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her reading to him, but he really does need to sleep on his own. Nine years old is pretty old to still be sleeping with your parents. Does she fall asleep in his bed or does he fall asleep in hers? She really needs to read to him, and then let him fall asleep on his own, not with her laying next to him.
2007-01-25 16:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by Holly M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No theres nothing to worry about.I slept in my parents bed till I was 10.I guess I just got use to the warmth of a person beside me.Now when I have a boyfriend I have to sleep in their bed : D With him : D
2007-01-26 20:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Crysta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah my 8 year old will climb in the bed with us on the weekends sometimes. I have fallen asleep many of times reading books to my little ones.
2007-01-25 17:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by momof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Not on a regular basis. If he had a nightmare once yeah that's ok but he's getting an unnatural dependence that mommy will be there. If he began "acting up" there may be something going on that she doesn't know how to deal w/. this wouldn't be the way though
2007-01-25 17:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no longer something legally or morally incorrect. i'm 25...if i pass to my human beings homestead and my dad is sound asleep i move slowly in mattress and faux like we were sound asleep...this is more effective humorous than something. i guess you had to be there. i might want to say that the in uncomplicated words element this is strange about the entire element is your mom no longer basically letting him "cry it out". if he had a father determine interior the picture to exhibit him that "men do not cry" or a thanks to act like a guy, this is unclear this can be taking position. what in case your mom were given married again? i ask your self in case your brother might want to pick to have his own mattress. i mean he's seven. he isn't any longer 2. it really is time for his own mattress! because there are 7 of you, perchance he might want to percentage a mattress room with one of his favourite siblings so as that way he received't be "scared", I basically experience truly undesirable on your mom having to percentage her mattress with a seven year previous!
2016-10-17 03:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by leinen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because at this age of psychosexual development a male child needs to overcome the Oedipal stage and detach from his mother.
2007-01-25 18:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋