i have been seperated for 9 months now. i cheated on my husband (and am not proud) he found a new girl and i heard lives with her. i know he loved me so much and probaly still does. he has the money. i just want to know why do you think he hasnt filed for divorce. his new girl i was told is having his baby too. i havent talked to him in about 8 months. help its driving me crazy!!!
2007-01-25 16:15:19 · 26 answers · asked by grniz07 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe he wants you to file for it so you end up paying for the cost of filing and lawyer cost.
maybe he figured why should he file since you were the cause of the breakup, or
maybe he is just so busy with his new girlfriend and the soon to come baby he has not given it a second thought.
oh, by the way, seems that you still have some lingering feelings somewhere in your subconcious because you still try to find out what is going on with him in his new life. he hasen't gotten in touch with you for 8 months and has a new family.....maybe, just maybe.....you are hoping against hope????
i'd say......file for divorce, start a new life and give him and his new family a break.
2007-01-25 16:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with you filing for divorce since its bothering you so much ? Stop keeping tabs on him, he has found someone and he's happy. I'm sure once he and his new woman decide that they want to get married then he will file. He may not even be thinking about you right now, he may be so caught up into his new life he just hasn't gotten around to tying up the lose ends with you (filing for divorce). Filing for divorce is a time-consuming process, its not just in and out. He may have the money, but may not want to take the time out of his happiness and work to go talk to an attorney or spend all day at the courthouse filling out the right forms so that they can file it and not send it back to him (I had to do that and it was all day). He still loves you, for obvious reasons, but as far as him holding out for you, don't flatter yourself, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
2007-01-26 01:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's not to sure of this other one. even though she's having his baby doesn't mean everything is alright between them . or maybe she tryed to trapped him by having a child. you don't know whats going on between them. He's probably waiting to see how things pan out there and his feelings at the same time probably checking out lawyers and getting information if he does go through a divorce how much will he lose money wise and how much he will have to give to you. Sometimes its easier to live seperately and without divorce if neither couple push for it. that way he's not paying you and losing some money and he can still have his girlfriend.
2007-01-26 01:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been seperated from 9 months, why don't you have your own money. If you want the divorce so bad file for it yourself. Maybe he is waiting on you to file since you cheated on him.
2007-01-26 00:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call him and talk about it. Keep everything documented in case things get ugly in the future and you need it for court. The only times I've seen a couple move on while still seperated was when it's easier to have both filed under insurance or bills going to somewhere...basicly when someone's getting something that they wouldn't get normally.
Anyway, call him and talk to him about it. If his girl is having his baby but he loves you then he's got some explaining, and it sounds like you do too. Remember that you both have done wrong so don't act mad and don't beg for forgiveness if he's not willing to give it to you.
2007-01-26 00:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by missknightride 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He has the money to file for a divorce against you.Yet he has not filed.I believe. He is still in love with you.He wants to be with you.If not.He would have already filed for a divorce against you.I believe.You are still in love with him.You should go to him,talk to him and see if the two of you can work your problems out.The only way you are truly going to find the answer to this question is to ask him.
2007-01-26 01:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by noga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you said he has the money and a divorce may force him to have to cough some of it up. that's not a huge incentive for a man. Especially if he was cheated on.
There maybe a love factor there too. He may find it impossible to file and is hoping he won't have to be the one to do it.
2007-01-26 00:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by TJTB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I'd be the one to file. You stepped outside the marriage, you should be the one to file for divorce. You owe him that much at the very least. Talk to him, let him know you are planning on going in to file the paperwork, if he isn't wanting that, he will let you know then that's not what he wants.
2007-01-26 00:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by spunkyshell2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's waiting for you to file. Some people are just too cheap to pay their fair share. When i got divorced ,i filed and ended up paying about 8000 bucks. She sat back and ended up paying her lawyer a whole $350.
2007-01-26 00:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by mopjky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you still love him! Talk to him about it and see if He wants a divorce or if He wants to try and work things out!?!?!?! If not then you may be the one needing to do the filing...but if I were you I'd try my hardest to save my marriage if I still love the man! We ALL make mistakes and can be forgiven for most of them, but sometimes it's too hard! So talk to him about! He's the only one who can really answer you question! Good luck!
2007-01-26 00:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by So you think you know me!? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋