my fiannce is up in arkansas foe his job and he is coming home friday i am on my period and he wont do it on my period he says its gross..and i dont know when the next time he will be down..i dont know what to do...
2007-01-25 16:10:46 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I'm so sorry you are having such a rough time right now. I hope that your fiance is supportive and is someone you can talk to about the way you are feeling. It sounds like it's been pretty stressful and lonely for you with your fiance away for work.
That said, there are a lot of things you can do this weekend besides having sex to feel intimate with your fiance. Oral sex (on him, obviously), cuddling, kissing, touching -- you don't have to actually have intercourse in order to feel close and intimate. Some men do find sex during a woman's period kind of messy and gross, but then again, it also can be extremely great because of all the extra lubrication. You might try pointing THAT fact out as well, and offer your fiance a condom to help keep himself a bit cleaner. And then you can shower together afterwards, which is always nice even when you aren't menstruating.
Just hang in there and talk to your fiance frankly about your feelings.
2007-01-25 16:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Meg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear your having such a hard time. While I'm sure you may have heard of PMS you might read up on this site, and you can help ease some of the added on symptoms you are experiencing aside from just missing your man....
http://www.womenshealth.gov/faq/pms.htm
And while I understand your need to be close to him, I can understand his discomfort w/being intimate as a less than desireable time. You might try to accept that it's not that he doesn't Love you or doesn't want to be with you, it's just the timing isn't right. I'm sure he'd be up for all the cuddling & kissing you really need right to hold you over, and he'll make up for it big time when your body's ready to go. Just remember that while he's away this will be a good time for you to explore things you like to do - art, sappy movies, window shopping ...stuff men don't enjoy but we love. While it's great to be "One", being a Special Individual in your own right brings More to your relationship and your well - being. Hang in there girl!!
2007-01-25 16:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you upset about a particular situation, such as the one you mentioned above? Or does it feel more just like a general sadness for no reason, that doesn't seem to go away? I would definitely have a visit with you Dr. to discuss depression. I can cry 20 hours a day, about nothing when I am not talking my medication properly.
2007-01-25 16:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by calgaryjenhere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TURN THAT FROWN UPSIDE DOWN AND SMILE! =D
watch ur favorite funny movie. forget about your fiannce for a while a just be happy. GO SHOPPING. buy watever you feel like!
go have fun with your friends! listen to happy music.. anything you think is cool. depression won't take you anywhere but to a deep black whole that leads to nothing.
hope you find what to do!
2007-01-25 16:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are worrying about the most trivial stuff imaginable. Can't the two of you just love each other, and enjoy the time together without having to have sex? Go to dinner, a movie, just sit side by side and talk. What's the big deal? If he doesn't want to "do it" so what. Have a great time with each other without "doing it". It's not the end of the world, and you cannot control natural happenings. If you just really have to please him sexually, do oral on him. He will be just as happy. Then do yourself after he leaves. There is no law saying you have to have sex to enjoy and love each other.
2007-01-25 16:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by john h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take care of dinner and such, dress real nice and watch football with him as if you enjoy it. if he needs a little stimulation you know what you can do. that is your decision. but he may just want to rest that weekend. if so, for god sakes don't force things. he may look forward to coming home and resting. miss kittly does that for me a lot. riding a 100 miles shooting it out with bad men makes a lawman pretthy darn tired. a quick dinner and going to bed can be the sweetest thing in the world. massage his back and just be sweet instead of bugging him about intercourse all thetime. that is what you do isn't it?
2007-01-25 16:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he thinks it's gross. If he really doesn't like it he could wear a condom. Tell him it's just you getting wet except it's red. Lots of people do it when they're on their period. It actually helps with your cramps. Just sit down and listen to him. I'm sure you can come to a compromise.
2007-01-25 16:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by Lynze B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what a lot of people have sent you but if youre really upset because you won't be able to have sex because your on our period then drink lots of fresh squeezed lemon juice to cut your period. Lemon helps get rid of it for a while unitl your next period..just don't do it often.
2007-01-25 17:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by amethyst3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have to agree with him about it being gross ,but there are other things you can do besides have sex,i mean love is not all about sex,and about you being emotional it's all your period,and it is worse because you are feeling lonely.maybe you could try to fly to him next time.honey don't worry when there's a will there's a way.
2007-01-25 16:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by sassie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all stop crying and listen. If he want do you than You do him. You take a long and nice bath. put on something sexy if you can do your hair look pretty for him. Things will get better and most of all pray and read."relax more"
2007-01-25 16:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by dee free 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋