Especially if he is not a believer in Christ?
2007-01-25 15:54:18 · 20 answers · asked by wayfarmorebetter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The first wrong belief young women have about dating is that they can change their boyfriends.
It won't happen.
Be a friend. Be an example of who Christ is in your life, and who He can be in his. But you can't expect him to understand your boundaries, and honestly, you can't expect to hold onto those boundaries in the face of constant pressure (and there -will- be constant pressure... he -is- a guy, after all, right?)
But, even if you don't "break up", slow it way down. Do group things. Keep Christ first, and make sure he (the boyfriend) knows it. He may decide to end it after a while... or he -may- become curious about your life. But don't bank on it.
God Bless.
2007-01-25 16:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by rtwo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think religion should never get in a way of a relationship. I just feel that even among couples of same religion doesnt mean they share the same values and beliefs. Sharing the same goals in life is more impt.
There's a chance of conversion. But even if that do not happen, what barriers and problems would it pose to the both of you. I think with the right amount of communications between the both of you, sensitive issues can be straighten out. However, if both of you feels that you guys are not sharing the same goals then it's better to let go early then to get hurt even more.
I just feel that it's a shame for 2 persons to be separated because of religion.
2007-01-26 00:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by Maximillian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Veronia
You would have to be quite shallow as obviously you can't really care much for your boyfriend to ask this question.
If he is your boyfriend already & it did'nt matter when you met, why should it matter now?
Its like saying he likes white bread & I like brown should we live apart?
Are you christian? I mean are you christian by nature?(two different things) one is a label & the other a way of life
If you cannot make the effort to be open minded to other peoples choices then that is not a very christian view of things.
I know many people who are not christians but are very christian in their nature towards others & can at least respect other peoples points of view, obviously your boyfriend falls into that catagory ...... do you?
2007-01-26 00:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by healer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over the years, I have seen relationships like this. Some did not work out at all. The guys felt threatened by her relationship with Christ and her involvement with her church. It made it very difficult for the girls. They felt they had to choose between their religion and their relationship. On the other hand, I have seen guys turn to Christ after seeing the love and gentleness in the girl. You have to look at your relationship and decide which category you fall in.
2007-01-26 00:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by JANIE A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how important it is to you. My mother is Muslim and my father is Catholic. Obviously, they are very open to other views and accept that each other finds God in their own way. It also wasn't important to either of them to raise their kids in a specific fashion. They just taught us to love God and find our own path.
If you have your heart set on raising a Christian family, then maybe you should rethink this relationship. You cannot bet your future on whether or not you can save him. You probably can't. If you can accept that he finds God his own way, or that he may not believe at all, there's no reason for you to cut him loose.
Either option isn't better than the other, and you will be no less of a person for keeping him or parting ways. It's just important to remember that love brings people together, but from then on out it is work and compromise that keep you together. If you can't come to a compromise with something that you consider this important, you're better off elsewhere.
2007-01-26 00:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by Charade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, this subject is the closest my girlfriend and i have come to having an argument. she is a very christian soul, but i take a more scientific appoach to how we all got here, evolution and so on.... although i still havent decided if there really is a god, i was brought up in a very religious enviroment, so its a question i think about a great deal. when it came for us to talk about it, my gf was very surprised at my views and found them a little hard to swallow. but we agreed that everyone was free to believe what they wanted to, and no one had the right to judge another for those beliefs. understanding and compromise are the answer in this case.
2007-01-26 21:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by wolf man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't show an interest in getting to know Christ, yes, let him go.
In the long run it wont work for being a Christian, means, to have higher principles plus you need to be able to share you're love for God.
2007-01-28 20:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by SwissAK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be pretty limited with your choice of guys if you only date the ones who attend church on a regular basis. If you like him then stay with him. If God wants you to date a Christian he will one day convert your boyfriend. If this doesn't happen then God doesn't mind you dating a non believer.
2007-01-26 01:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by SR13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, let him go.
Can you be bothered with nagging him every day to come to church with you?
Be happy, find a man with the same beliefs as you.
2007-01-29 05:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by Afi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he would like going to church with you. If he likes church and becomes a beliver then GREAT! YAY! Another believer and you don't have to worry about if you should let him go or not :)
2007-01-26 01:11:51 · answer #10 · answered by cheerio_93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋