how could i...?

Question

okay, so there is this girl, i like her a lot. i mean i cant stop thinking about her and i can talk to her fine on aim, i mean, i never ever get nervous there, but when im around her i get all shy... i really want to tell her how i feel, but idk how to or even if i should. im just stuck here because 1)no one knows im bi, like i havent come out yet. 2)she is 3 years older than me and basicly treats me like her little sister. 3)[but this isnt a problem] she is lesbian. but anyway, can you guys help me out to get over this or whatever might work? thank you alll

Answer 1

well a lot of people get like this when they like someone if they are gay or straight . I wonder if you are a little bit more nervous because you haven't told anybody that you are bisexual yet.... maybe if you tell her you are then maybe you will feel more open when you are around her i bet she would like that someone that she knows likes women too... since you said she is a lesbian and that could open you up to telling her you like her . i don't think it is wrong that she is 3 years older than you unless you are really young but who cares about that it is not like she is 20 years older than you . the best thing that you having going for you is that you guys have some type of communication with each other because now all you have to do is tell her that you are bi and maybe to ask her how she came out to other people and how does it feel being a lesbian because i bet she would love to help you with that.. and that is how you will get even more closer to her... so you can then tell her how you really feel about her.. and if you do at first decided to tell her you are bi tell her when you guys are talking on aim because you will not feel as nervous as you would if you say it face to face. Also do not let this go by even if you have to push yourself because you will always regret not telling her how you really feel...believe me i wish i would of told a guy friend of mine that i wanted him as much as he wanted me because now i regret it everyday. Also if she doesn't want you their is always someone that will no matter who you are.

Answer 2

If you know her well and can trust her, than maybe you should let her know how you feel. This could be a great experience for you especially because you know her.

The more comfortable you are with the person the better the relationship will be. The fact that she is a lesbian and seemingly open about it, is even better for you.

I would by all means sit down with her and have a chat if I was you, it is probably your best bet. But do what your heart tells you, I and no one else can tell you what is really the right thing for you to do, we can only help.

And make sure you speak with her face to face, she may not take you seriously over AIM. Also it is so much more personal to do things like this in person.

Answer 3

start by sharing your feelings in aim. tell her you want her more than a friend.. see how she reacts.. if she seems interested in their romance or sex, etc.. then use aim to discuss how you are going to approach it..

if you agree that you both want more, then make a promise that the next time you see each other in person, you will share a deep intimate hug and kiss. that should get things rolling..

nothing wrong with using computer to express feelings and develop a plan. this has really helped me get closer to people i never would have had the courage to approach face to face..

Answer 4

Well if u want to come out, then tell her that ur bi and u like her a lot. But if ur not ready; and if u trust her tell her u wana give it a shot and all that stuff..

Answer 5

you already have one chance bcoz shes a lesbian so it would be easier for you to approach her, why dont you tell her that you're bi? or if you're shy just give her some hints to show her that you like her, care bout her and that you're bi.
goodluck ;)

Answer 6

Tell her the truth hon, life is to short to fantasize. If she is available she might think about it. If she is not then it's time to move on and pick on other flowers.

CUBAN GURU....♀

Answer 7

Never live with regret Ask her !!!! Take a deep breath and tell her how you feel !!

Answer 8

you will probably outgrown it and move on to other things next ... your experimental and so long as it doesn't harm a child or an animal , have fun

Answer 9

Gust try and be yourself and ask her to go for coffee.

Answer 10

(Crying. . . . :) Just go with what feels right to you