My friend has been communicating with this guy via the internet. They talk and joke about everything and act as if they've been known each other. So, the other day she jokingly asked if he could give out his phone number. He said can you? She said I don't see why not. He then said, I'm really diggin u, but I'm not ready to communicate by telephone. I told her they're alot of rejects and socially deprived people on the internet. He's probably one of those people who has to communicate via internet to interact with people. I told her he probably lied about everything he told her. What do u think?
2007-01-25 15:48:05 · 36 answers · asked by Who is it? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yep...i smell a rat!...something's up with this dude...what guy will pass up a number that was willingly given to him???
2007-01-25 15:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by Retarded Genius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of reasons he may not want to communicate.
- As you said, he could be lying through his teeth.
- He may have a girlfriend or wife and doesn't want her answering the phone.
- He may be everything he has said but may be shy when he's talking rather than typing.
- Maybe he's afraid if they talk on the phone, then the "relationship" will go to the next level and he's not ready for that.
- He may just not want to ruin a good thing.
- Maybe he's into how a person looks and is afraid your friend isn't attractive.
- Maybe he's not attractive and doesn't want her to find out.
It could be any number of reasons. I'd tell your friend not to push the issue unless he brings it up in the future. If she's looking for a relationship that extends outside the Internet and he continues to show no interest in talking on the phone or meeting, then she probably needs to focus her efforts elsewhere.
If she wants to play coy with the guy, she could also casually mention sometime that she met some guy at the library or bar or grocery store or wherever and she has a date next week. Maybe that will let this Internet dude know she's not waiting around for him to make a move.
2007-01-25 16:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there could be a chance where he may even possible not yet be "ready" to start communicating by the phone. I don't lik talking to people I talk to on the phone, and that has nothing to do with being socially deprived or anything like that. I just don't mix internet life with my actual social or personal life.
Also you nver do know who or what you could be getting yourself into and using the phone as a form of communication might also mean "taking the next step".
**BUT** then again it could be completely the other way around. This person could not be who they say the are, they could possibly be lying, etc.
So you never "REALLY" know WHO or WHAT you are talking to when using the internt so t's best to protect yourself online.
2007-01-25 15:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by msheatherd28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be a cyber freak who only likes the internet love...or he could think that it was extremely weird that your friend wanted to talk to him and he seriously wasn't ready for all of that. Yeah he could be lying but she probably is too. Why mess up a good thing, keep it between the keyboards.
2007-01-25 15:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. TT '07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid I have to agree with you. I hate to see the negativity in things, but the Internet leaves me a little bit skeptical due to all the mystery behind it...you really can be anyone, who would know? Tell your friend to be safe and not be so quick to give her number away, its' best to be safe than sorry, I'm sure she has heard that one before....besides he's not ready for a telephone conversation???HUMMMMMM!!!!!
2007-01-25 15:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being cautious is a very wise decision---the people may or may not be who they say they are---NEVER take the chance--you might be sorry for doing that. Too late once something bad starts to happen. The warnings are to be heeded and the advise to not give out a number is a good one.
2007-01-25 15:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be right, & it would be smart to make that assumtion rather than make an obvious mistake.
There's also another possibility, & that is that he's the smart one between the two of them because the same possibilities exist for him as well.
I hope your friend is an adult. Otherwise her parents need to know that she is getting wreckless while communicating with STRANGERS on the internet.
2007-01-25 15:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I've reached my limit on answering questions about so-called Internet or on line relationships for the day.
I do, however, still have a lot to say about the over- commercialization of Valentine's Day.
2007-01-25 15:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree on the "not giving out personal info" over the internet. You can 'assume' you 'know' someone, by chatting with them over enough time, but really NOT know them enough to gain personal info. I would stress that giving out personal info of any kind is putting yourself and others at risk.
I had a female cousin who met someone online, and she met him, face to face, and on the internet, he was all 'nice and polite', but when they got together, he was controlling, an ****** and he was very rude and even threatened her!
What bothered me the most, though, was when she first met him, face to face, and she drove him around, and showed him where all of us lived!! I was apalled! Then she gave him her password for 'messenger' and this creep went online, posing has 'her' and insulted everyone, and telling them he was going to kill them, etc...it was sick!
She sure learned her lesson, though. Even to this day, I'm paranoid as to whether or not this guy is still around!!
Ugh!! Don't give out personal info of ANY kind, not matter HOW NICE they are!!!
2007-01-25 15:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, or maybe not, I have an online girlfriend and we don't communicate on the phone. Personally I'd be worried if it goes deeper than that. Remember one thing the longer they talk, if he is phony he will reveal sooner or later his true intensions. Just tell your friend to tread lightly and try not to hand out personal information to unknowns on the web
2007-01-25 15:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by murduk0420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust anyone anonymous on the internet. There's just too many friggin freaks out there posing as someone else. Slick creeps too who will use words to manipulate you; tell you what you want to hear. If she's vulnerable to such smooth talkers, she could really get into trouble. It happens all the time.
2007-01-25 15:52:39 · answer #11 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋