Her dad met this woman on December 21st and by January 3rd, they were living together. Her dad has had her living with him because for a long time, I was not financially able to support her. My husband and I are finally getting to the point where we can. So basically after less than a month, all of them are living with a woman he barely knows. My daughter is sleeping on a cot and he hadn't even bothered to get her clothes over to the new place. The g.f.'s 14 year old son watches my daughter and I'm not comfortable with that. Now, her grades are suffering, I fear because of the uprooting. The woman makes suggestive and vulgar comments in front of my daughter and is so insecure, that she won't let them go to what is still their house. What can I do? Is there a way to go which won't make my daughter resent me? I need advice!
2007-01-25 15:47:14 · 7 answers · asked by Suzanne S. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I realized how bad it was getting when we all kept seeing her wear the same clothes and she couldn't even get her heels in the soles of her shoes because they were too small (the shoes are from two years ago). They would be tucked in and she's started lashing out. I had to deal with this woman on my birthday and she allowed her 14 year old's girlfriend's little sister to come with her, knowing full well that my child would be distracted on my b-day. I hardly saw her! She claims that she's not trying to replace me, but it's becoming loud and clear what she wants. I just don't want my daughter to resent me.
2007-01-25 16:15:38 · update #1
The most important thing is the safety of your child. If you truly feel she is in an unsafe environment and you are not just pissed because your husband is iwth this woman, then you need to go before a judge and tell him that they moved right in and you aren't comfortable with the 14 year old and she sleeps on a cot and her grades are suffering and the vulgar stuff and get as many facts and as much proof together that you cana nd get your child out of that unsafe house. This is your child and if you feel that your child is not safe then it is your responsibility to do something about it.
Good luck.
2007-01-25 17:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by Weezy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try to do your best to become financially able to get your daughter back, you don't need a hell of alot of money, just enough to survive, as long as you have love to give your child, that is the most important, and she needs to be in a safer environment, I am not sure I like the fact that there is a 14 year old boy taking care of her....as far as clothes and shoes, I am sure you can do more for her than her father is doing....so please go get your daughter....for her sake and yours. God Bless.
2007-01-26 00:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOR GOD SAKE BE A MOTHER!!
If you do not stand up for yourself, no one will do it for you. No money? That's is just an excuse you use to excuse yourself. Get a job, get government help, mothers with much more less than you take care of their daughters. Get your daughter out of that living hell, before something really bad happens to her.
Do you love her or not? Do you want her to be raped on a filthy cot by some pervert while her "stepmother" watch TV, and you are complaining about not being rich? Get up and save your daughter before is too late.
If something happen to her she will never forgive you for letting it happen and you'll never forgive yourself.
2007-01-26 00:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your daughter knows you love her in any and every way you can As for not being stable money wise there are people out there that can help you look in to some of your county's programs love doesn't cost a thing but time and if you truly love your daughter invest TIME in her.
2007-01-26 00:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Forsaken Rose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do whatever you have to do to get her back. This is not a good situation for her to be in. Make sure she knows she can call on you and be open and honest about what's going on in that house. This is so sad. Good luck, hon.
2007-01-26 00:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by aku_aku78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Social services!!!!!
Supportive agencies!!!!
Your daughter deserves you!!!
You may need to play hard ball....
It's not always about money....
It should be about the health both mental and physical welfare of our children....good luck!
2007-01-26 00:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should start getting your money up man cuz you need to take her back home!!
2007-01-25 23:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by luvmexico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋