can two people be commited at heart despite distance and situatiin in life?

Question

we're both in a loveless marriage...cant afford annulment or divorce.....love and trust holds us together.....

Answer 1

My advice here would be to ignore the marriage, as it is only a piece of paper after all, the real bond is invisible. Go about your daily business, and coexist as roommates. Mind your own business, clean up after yourself, be considerate as you would to any roommate, and keep your opinions to yourself. Take care of the marriage details when you can. But if you're BOTH on the same page as this(like you married because of some stupid BET or something) then there's no reason you can't carry on as normal in most situations, and I'm sure there's a way around the ones you do come across. But for gods sake do something to ensure that no children are born to this marriage. Before I had my 3 I thought it didn't matter who the babys dad was since they have so little to do with kids(or so I was brought up to believe) but I was dead wrong, and there's nothing worse than hating the other parent of your kid, mainly because you can't cuss them out when they try for the umpteenth time to destroy you, because if you insult their father, or mother, the kids only feel the hate, and hear the condemnation as their own- hate their mom,hate them, is how they see it, even if you'd take a bullet for them and cheerfully put one in your ex's, they don't know this, they just know bad feelings.
But since I grew up never seeing my mom in a happy affectionate marriage, the best being with my dad, they didn't fight, he didn't beat us, but I never saw them hug, and "I love you" was reserved maybe for Christmas time. And he left when I was 8.

Answer 2

Well you should be ashamed of yourself, no you cannot be connected at heart. That's lust, it's not about being able to afford a divorce, you're both committing adultery. You married the person and now you have to deal with it, if you're in love with someone else tell your husband and I'm sure you'll find some way to relieve yourselves from each other.

Answer 3

Ok, and I just want to try to help, but be more descriptive in your question. The title says "can two...despite distance...in life?" and then you say "you are in a loveless marriage... love and trust holds us together" Can you make up your mind? sorry to flame but your question is not understandable.

Answer 4

Yes.......I live and work a Business in England

My Wife lives and works in our Business in Thailand

I see her about 2 Times a year and have done so for around
7 years.

We still e-mail, Test and call each other most days
Its Hard but I cant work in Thailand Legally and she needs to run the Business in Thailand as if we let someone else runs it, it takes about a Year to get it back to normal as it was before

Answer 5

Yes you sure can and i think you should save money and divorce so that you can be with each other if this is what you want and you dont want to work on your marriages... Does your spouses know about this? I sure hope so.

Answer 6

If you live in deciet, then you are destined to be treated with Deciet. HOw can you have trust when you are lieing to the peson you have made an oath to. One of you will not be trustworthy as you have a relation

Answer 7

Sounds like you all were too young for marriage. There is not enough information here to actually answer definitively.

Answer 8

no it's all about lust, not real love. your just kidding yourself here, making it what u want it to be when it's not love or commitment. how can u trust someone who cheats? they Will only cheat on u too.

Answer 9

Trust? How can two married people who are cheating on their spouses have any sort of trust between them. It would seem that neither is trustworthy.

Answer 10

yes you can love reguardless of wht the distance is os just love