He has messed with our lives a bunch. We have struggled because of it. It's not an easy situation, though I try and stick by her in hope it will eventually change (I mean, the guy is a real psycho)...but u get tired of it after awhile. Any ideas?
2007-01-25 15:18:48 · 22 answers · asked by kedpayne4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
um report him, get a restraining order, stuff like that. call the cops on him the next time he does something
2007-01-25 15:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraining orders always help!
But remember there are always three sides to every story, his side, her side, and the truth. People don't generally get all "psycho" unless there is something making them psycho.
Your wife isn't telling you everything about their relationship. They shared something pretty important to make him feel so attached still. And/or she's still talking to him or doing something to keep him coming back (not sex, maybe just an ocassional phone convo or email).
Besides, everyone says they have a "psycho" ex. I know you are biased and siding with her but try to view things from his POV also. It might help with understanding and maybe help you figure a way to talk to him and get him to calm down. I think he is probably also looking for closure that he never got when the relationship ended. Everyone deserves closure, help him find a way to let go...
2007-01-25 15:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by RitzFitz29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations for sticking by your wife. It makes her life easier knowing your there for her.
As far as the psycho...from here it seems you may have to take legal action of some sort to keep him away. If there is a divorce decree,be sure to do what you can to keep it enforced. If he is harassing you that badly perhaps you could get a restraining order from the court.
Short of all that..move away from him..it may take some work on your part,but putting some room between you and her ex. may be worth it.
2007-01-25 15:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they do not have children together, there is no reason for her to talk to him--ever. If that is the case, don't answer the door or the phone. Don't acknowledge him in any way and eventually he will get the hint. If not, then he is crazy and you will have to call the police to get a restraining order against him. If you wife is willingly talking to him, then she is part of the problem and needs to cut him off completely.
2007-01-25 15:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to a different town. Out of sight out of mind, maybe if she's not so accessible he won't be around. I'm guessing there's kids involved? Well, you may just have to deal with him every other weekend. If he behaves himself things can go smoothly. If there's no kids move to a long distance place. If you don't want to move get a restraining order and let him know that you mean it when you say to back off! Good Luck! =)
2007-01-25 15:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consult with an attorney, get a restraining order, and maybe even install security features outside your house, such as an inexpensive security camera. If he tries anything, you'll have proof to show a judge. Have 911 on speed dial and be aware of your surroundings when you go to you car every morning. It might also help to get your wife a taser (if they're legal where you are) to keep on her at all times. Best of luck!
2007-01-25 15:30:49 · answer #6 · answered by Suzanne S. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any children involved?
Call the police, get a restraining order against him, move away from the place you live at and don't let him know where you are living, stand up to him and pressure him to leave her alone. Don't leave your wife because of his doing because she doesn't have any controll over him.
2007-01-25 15:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move and change your phone number! You don't know what this guy will do. Get a restraining order so if he calls or comes close he will be locked up and out of your hair for a while.
2007-01-25 15:48:21 · answer #8 · answered by Cristina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you find some reason to move away. As far as possible would be best. You may say that its not possible because your lives are here, but what sort of life is it? Talk your wife into moving so you can start fresh without the stress, you will be very glad you did.
2007-01-25 15:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by auburn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraining order! Relocation
2007-01-25 15:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by hotbunnydoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I hate when people say "physical violence" never solves anything. One good @ss whoopin' would probably clear this up quickly. He does it because he basically gets away with it. He's basically a bully. Usually if you pull their "punk card", they will walk away, tail tucked firmly between their legs.
I dated a girl in college who's ex did this to her. Not just when I was dating her, but others she dated prior to me. One time he came around trying to start mess. He did this cause most guys would not do anything, and also end up not seeing the girl again. I went out, got in his face a little, and we never saw him again, except around campus.
The girl and I didn't last, but I saw her later on, and she thanked me because he never did that stuff again.
He's basically a school yard bully. Until someone stands up to him, he will continue to be one.
2007-01-25 15:33:00 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋