we have 2 kids..........i think i m a great mom to my kids..........husband dont want a broken family for his kids
2007-01-25 15:14:18 · 11 answers · asked by cherrypie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From the experience of my parents marriage, it is best for the kids if you go your separate ways. kids are not dumb and they pick up on the tension between the two of you. It makes them confused and they feel torn. It would be best to separate and start new lives. The kids will notice how much happier their parents are and, once they adapt to going in between two places, they will also be mch happier. Bringing a third person into the equation will only cause more poblems later on (because lets face it, it will come out eventually) and when your kids find out you may find that they will blame you for the problems that you are having now - they wont understand that there have been problems for a long time, they will just see the third person and think that that is what caused their parents to break up. Thats what has happened in my family and 16 months on things still are not right. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-25 19:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be divorced before finding another man to be with and start a relationship with... If you choose to stay with your husband then seek help and counseling for you and this marriage and work on it with your husband and try to make it better.... Staying for the kids is the wrong reason to stay in this marriage.... because if that is the only reason you are staying then when the kids are grown and up and gone your marriage will fall apart anyways. Trust me it is not worth it.
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2007-01-25 16:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl do not go and start a relationship when you haven't finished this one that your in. If you are certain that you don't want to be with him anymore then get a divorce and move on even if he doesn't want to break up the family. Your kids will be better off with a happy mother and father then with you two staying together and them seeing something or hearing something that is hurting them. Never stay together for the kids.
Good luck
2007-01-25 15:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have 2 kids, you have love. It depends on your religious beliefs. Many families are broken, and children survive. Divorce is an option if you believe that man can put asunder what God has joined together. Love outside the marriage is Adultery.
2007-01-25 15:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by Je Taime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not live like that with your kids. you might not be divorced but it is a broken family. kids can sense the tension between parents. staying together for the kids never works out well
2007-01-25 15:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what kinda love are you looking for ? Just sex or a real emotional connection with someone ? .. If you both want to work it out got to consoling. It's better to get a divorce now then waiting and having him cheat on you and your kids find out..It will cause more problems for you in the long run.
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2007-01-25 15:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there nothing you can say, a marriage is about love, respect
etc and if you dont have that then you really dont have anything
as for broken family the longer you stay there the family will
never heal and all of you need to think about that. time to
really look at this time to move on.
2007-01-25 15:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is how you feel you family is already broken and staying in it as is wil hurt your children more then help, and you will be sending the wrong message to them. Either get counseling and work on making it work or get counceling and work on making parenting while seperated work. trust me staying together for children is one of the wrost things you can do and the children suffer.
2007-01-25 15:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by LoTs2ShArE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's still adultery. If your not happy together for the children's sake you should get a divorce. Two people that can't get along is more stressful on children than split parents.
2007-01-25 15:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried counseling? Maybe you guys can spend sometime alone to try to remember the reason that you fell in love in the first place. It may not work, but you married because you were in love, and it is worth it to try to rekindle that.
2007-01-25 15:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by swanser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋