Is there any Women left out there who appreciate a man escorting, opening doors, etc. and being treated...?

Question

like a lady, or have the feminists ruined that aspect of men being civil and respectful towards women?

And, what is wrong with compilmenting a women who is dressed nice, hair well groomed, smells nice, looks pretty, without it being construed as being sexist?

Some women are prudes on this, does it make any difference if the man is good looking or not?

When a man says to a lady, You look pretty today, does not mean he is hitting on her. Does it?

Answer 1

I enjoy having doors opened for me but in turn I don't have a problem opening the door or holding them for men or women. I appreciate compliments and I enjoy giving them as well. I think what you are referring to is mutual respect and admiration which I am afraid to say is sadly lacking with all people in today's society. I very willingly give up my seat to an elderly man or woman, or a parent with a small child. I have been on the tube with many a male that refuses to do that, and I believe that to be wrong.
Now if a man I didn't know began to compliment me on my appearance I would be wary simply because he is crossing boundaries that I feel he has no right to cross. If it is a person I am familiar with that is fine. It would be the same way if a women began to compliment you on your looks and attire, I think that you would be uncomfortable and perhaps suspicious of the motives as well.

Answer 2

Nothing is wrong with tastefully complimenting a woman on her appearance. It's in the details of exactly what one says.

"Oooh, you look hot" and various versions of this notion are not going to be received very well by most women.

"You look lovely/great today/tonight" is much more appropriate and appreciated.

It's not sexist until it makes a woman FEEL like a slab of meat. That might mean that the same comment make different women feel good and others bad. Watch your body language (staring, etc.) and just not to put SO much emphasis on looks. The difference is in the details. Women pick up on them immediately. Men don't. That's why I'm explaining.

By the way, I am a feminist. Have I ruined anything yet?

Answer 3

I love a man that knows how to treat a woman. My dad has always taught me that a worthy guy will do all of that. He even yells at my brother if he doesn't open doors for my mom and I!
I guess, for most women, it does make a difference if you are good looking or not. Sorry, but thats just the way it is. Try talking to a girl before complimenting her. I know its weird, but it can creep us out.

Answer 4

This is one of those questions that looks like it would have a short answer but there are so many variables to it. In general, I think women still enjoy having doors opened for them, etc. But the "you look pretty" comment would depend on a lot of things. If you work together and you are her boss, it is highly inappropriate. Or if you walked into the office and three women were there and you only looked at one of them and said "gee, you look especially pretty today", how do you think the others would feel? If you have the reputation of hitting on women, pretty soon all women will think you are weird. There are just so many variables. You might get your questions better answered if you provided examples or more details.

Answer 5

I think it always feels nice to be treated by a lady. Men should always behave like gentlemen, no matter what the response. And most women never turn down a sincere compliment either. There's nothing wrong with that.

Answer 6

You are asking if their any women out there that like these things? Question is where are those men who enjoying doing that? I finally found me one who does and at first I didn't know how to take it. Because I wasn't use to having a man doing any of that for me. But you better believe i learned fast to appreciate all the good qualities in my new man. I just wished there were more like him so all my sisters and lady's can know how a man really can be.

Answer 7

I am thrilled to see that some men wish to be chilvarous, I am deeply complimented when my partner opens the car door, brings me flowers, takes his jacket off for me when its cold or raining. It shows respect and as a feminist female, I enjoy been taken care of in a physical manner.

Answer 8

Its great when a man treats me like a lady. there is nothing at all wrong with it and keep on doing it. you will find the right woman that way.

Answer 9

If I find a woman to be worthy of praise, I give her that praise. If she is rude enough to give me grief about that, I'll be happy to exchange that compliment for a flip of the finger. When she gets angry, I'll then be quick to hold the door open for her as she leaves, but be sure to shut it fast enough that it gives her a goodbye nudge as she passes through.

Answer 10

1. "Some women are prudes on this". You need to look up the meaning of the word 'prude'/"prudish". I can't understand what you are trying to say with this.

2. Opening a door for someone is ONE thing; describing to them how they smell to you is quite another. Do you tell your male colleagues about how you think they smell? I didn't think so. Common sense dictates that this is definitely a 'no-go' zone for colleagues at work. Your next door neighbor in your apartment complex may be able to evade your unwelcome intrusions but a colleague employed in the same office as you may find herself cornered - literally.

3. "what is wrong with compilmenting a women...". Context is important: where are you doing this? If at your place of employment then it is innappropriate behavior. If the woman is made to feel uncomfortable by your unwanted attention then it's time to BACK OFF. Because the attention is making her feel uncomfortable you are in the wrong, no matter what your personal opinion regarding how you think she OUGHT to feel. Her feelings are legitimate because they are her feelings. You need to learn to respect this. Perhaps you are not able to read more subtle clues these women are giving to you; she may find herself with no alternative but lodge an official complaint about you. Sometimes these guys just 'don't get it' otherwise. Remember: if your attention is unwanted and you refuse to stop with the behavior you may find yourself unemployed.