I am so annoyed with my partner I'm thinking of leaving. We have hardly any money at the moment and he keeps spending it on stupid things! I wanted to spoil my little girl because she has a ear infection so I bought some things for her in woolworths. Some disney dvds and comics. I am now overdrawn for spending £20 and I wish I'd never spent it. He has just spent £350 on kennels for his dogs! I had flu and had to go down the doctors, I fell into the road because I was dizzy, I told him about it and he refused to stay home from work to look after our daughter because he needs the money. His dog had £350 spent on it and he won't even run a bath for me when I ask. I feel so sad that I can't rely on anybody to take care of me when I'm ill. Am I just moaning too much or should I kick him in the head!
2007-01-25 15:11:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was only joking about the kicking part but I bloddy feel like doing it right now. It's only a little terrier, but £350 on that!
2007-01-25 15:47:58 · update #1
you have every right to complain. sounds like he does not have his priorities straight.
you and your daughter should come first not the dogs. if he has to work to make money thats understandable so long as hes not blowing it on things that don't really matter (basically anything other than bills, food or family).
you have to decide what you want to do and wha you want for your life. if hes not it and what he has to offer is no longer appealing, then i think you have your answer!
you go girl and take care!
2007-01-25 15:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by tara t 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are totally entitled to have a good moan over this hun!!!Hes basically chosen to spend money on his dog over his daughter!!!
I applaude him for taking care of his dog and all that -but really there is a limit - and a preference on what money is spent on when things are tight!
He sounsd very selfish - if you're sick he should put you first and look after you.
I think you need to tell him these things and if he doesnt buck up his ideas about his priorities then maybe you should leave.... you can always do better than him!
xx
2007-01-25 22:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello flutterby,
How awful for you to have such a selfish and inconsiderate partner!!! I think it would be for the best that you break up with this man, for your own sanity and for the sake of your daughter. Only then will you be able to rebuild your life and get your finances in order. If you stay with this man, things will only get worse, unless he is able to change; but it sounds like there is very little chance of that! The way that your partner is going, is seems that there is very much a possibility that he is going to get you into debt. He does not consider your feelings or your daughter's feelings at all.
It will be a little difficult to begin with, but you must finish with this man and concentrate on yourself and bringing up your little girl. Then you can consider finding a mate who will treat you how you deserve to be treated. If you stay with this man and hope that things will improve, then it will only be a recipe for disaster.
Feel free to email me if you need a little moral support!
I wish you all the best! :o)
2007-01-25 16:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi flutterby
Everybody needs a bit of tlc sometimes & your partner should realise that you need some right now & be the one to give it without you having to ask.
He not really in tune to your needs & it is always a strain when money is tight.
You are entitled to moan just like everybody else!
It seems like you need to remind him what your priorities are & what his should be.
Make time for yourself, even if its just to have a relaxing bath, light a few candles, treat yourself to some bubbles & switch off for a bit.
I hope things get better for you all ...
2007-01-25 16:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by healer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say you sound insane. if you had half a brain you would realize he is just a selfish bastard by the sound of it.
so do you and your daughter a favour and cut him out of your lives.
as for kicking him in the head that would only hurt your foot/ feet. and it would not make a blind bit of difference to his behaviour towards you and your daughter.
if he loved you and his daughter he would get rid of the dogs (if money is so tight for you both) this would enable him to spend more of his money on his daughter and yourself.
i'm single and have heath problems permanent problems as in everysingle day of my life. but i have only myself to rely on. as for you moaning at him or about him will solve nothing.
I would not want anyone to have to take care of me when ill as i feel it is an imposition to expect someone to take care of you when ill. unless you check in to a hospital then they are paid to look after you. though saying that if you are otherwise healthy and this is a temporary bout of illness then a lover or family member should want to nurse you back to health.
so to sum up get rid of him and find someone who is prepared to put you and your daughter first. not the damn dogs.
kicking him in the head could land you in jail. and yes i know you said joking about kicking him.
you need to think long and hard about what is right for you and your daughter.
money is generaly tight for everyone. personaly i owe a coupe thousand pounds due to excessive and obsessive buying of computer components to build my custom specification systems.
Although i spent this money on the computers i only did so because i had no one to spend my money on and i did so because i wanted two great systems for my own computing needs.
I will not say anymore now. just remeber it is your life you have to do what makes you happy, you are with you all your life.
good lcuk and if you want an impartial eye to read any other thought you have mail me direct via my profile.
good luck and choose wisely use your head not your heart.
2007-01-25 16:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Violence is never the answer.
He does come across as being a bit of an a rsehole though.
The dogs- rottweilers by any chance? .. I am starting to build up a mental picture here.....
He's a brute. Dump him before he starts slapping you around. I know the type only too well.
2007-01-25 15:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by Not Ecky Boy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U can just leave him. Don't be so kind. Think of your little girl and don't give the money to your partner. He think the money more important than your. just let it be. Think of it.
2007-01-25 15:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by Yin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be positive get rid you will feel better in more ways than one and your daughter will be a lot happier
2007-01-29 03:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by zannyto4nanny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave him, he not doing anything for you and
your daughter, he seem to care for his dog more then he does
his wife and child.
2007-01-25 16:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him...he obviously thinks more of his dog than he does you....and it will stop him squandering your money on stupid things
2007-01-25 16:19:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋