So I just got finished reading all the married people who seem happy and stuck in there. But how do you know to stick in there? I have been married for almost three years now together for seven and I don't know if I am happy. When I married my husband I thought for sure that he would take care of me and us financially, and so far that has not been the case. I am not saying that this is the only thing that matters but because of the lack of this promise we have stayed in motels, rooming houses, and now I am back with my mother (who is emotional abusive). I believed that you should be faithful, that you should stick in there, that there will be bad times, so when is it too much? When do I smile again? He asked me to give him another chance, and so far I am still here, but my hair is still falling out, I still have panic attacks, and I am trying to avoid depression. No he does not want to go to a counselor, he has stated this many of times. Help!
2007-01-25 15:07:09 · 8 answers · asked by livlovelaugh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-01-26 06:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need a separation at least and some time to be on your own. If your not working try to look for work and have that money to yourself. You might want to question if he really cares for your well being when he doesn't even want to seek help with you. If your hair is falling out and your having attacks go to a counselor (by yourself)...worry about yourself first then him. Take care of yourself and if he loves you he will change.
2007-01-25 23:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by Cristina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to see a doctor about your panic attacks and you need to go to counseling for you asap so you can get better and stronger in this situation. If you are seperated then stay seperated for a while and take some time. I really do not know what you tell you since he is not open to marriage counseling... Does he still want the marriage or not? Is he open to working on the marriage with you at all or does he want out? Tell him how you are feeling and be totally honest with him and tell him you need him to go to marriage counseling with you.
2007-01-26 00:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If what you have decribed is the quality of life you would like to have for the next 10 years, stick with him. If you value yourself and want a better life then you have to take action. You have given him time enough to get things turned around with no results. When you do meet Mr. Right you will appreciate him more because you know what it is like to not be treated well.
2007-01-25 23:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You learned the hard lesson that you don't get married "so that someone can take care of me". Marriage is all about two people committed to giving ALL of themselves in order to each other through good times and bad. You've got the bad now, if he is trying to find work and is unable then you need to get a job to support the both of you. Do you love him enough to do that? If not, its time to part ways.
2007-01-25 23:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by yackycritter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that you can do bad by yourself you don't need some man dragging you down. Just b/c you separate from someone does not mean you have to divorce them but maybe you should tell that man when he can keep a roof over his head then you can start to rebuild your marriage, until then you need to be alone and do for yourself.
2007-01-25 23:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by Forever_Young 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i thiink that you have stuck in there long enough, time to get
back in the game and leave him along, he not going to do
good by you. so time to be good to your self. you deserve to
be happy and this sound like a lot of unhappiness here.
2007-01-25 23:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sory, can't tell you what to do
2007-01-25 23:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋