My husband had been coming home late a lot this month and giving excuses to justify it. I had just suspected that he was being unfaithful....we have been together 7 years and we have two sons and I just suffered a miscarriage a week ago. He had been real distant with me and we have not had much sex and he blamed it on his prescription he is on but he has been on it for 6 months and never had any trouble. He went away on a business trip this morning so I went through the cell phone bill and saw that he was calling this one number almost daily from Dec. 27th until now. He would call sometimes on his lunch break but mostly on his ride home from work and they would talk for 25-40 minutes each time. I called the phone number. It took me to the voicemail of his ex girlfriend Amber. He claims they JUST talk because he needed a friend to confide in and she is there for him and he keeps sticking up for her and swears they were never physical. He called her again today after our huge fight!
2007-01-25 14:55:48 · 10 answers · asked by MommyOf2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I told him i was gonna call her and ask her and he said "why bring this poor girl into this, she hasnt done anything wrong, be mad at me not her but all i did was talk to her alot b/c i needed a friend" I told him if he needed to talk then he should of come to his wife not an ex girlfriend! He said a mutual friend emailed him and she was on the email and they started talking but he will not tell me who the mutual friend is which makes me think he ran into her a different way. He said he wanted to talk tonight (hes out of town until tomorrow) so i waited up and he said he was really nasty and said he had a flight and was going to bed yet he is still logged on his Instant Messenger now. B4 he went to dinner we was all apologetic and wanted to talk and now he is being nasty to me!! WTH
2007-01-25 15:30:29 · update #1
sounds as if u have a right to be angry, when there are problems in a marriage it never does any good to go outside the marriage for answers. why does he feel he can't talk to u? u need to confront him, let him know u will not put up with this, and if he won't stop calling her it means he isn't interested in saving your marriage. chances are if your intuition is telling u something that there is definitely something going on. when we don't know something for sure our intuition seems to. he should not be sticking up for her and trying to protect her, the problem isn't her it is him, and he is the one choosing to call her. instead of fighting with u he should be showing remorse, after all his is a married man, and u as his wife should not have to share him in some emotional affair with someone else, as when he is talking to her, he is cheating u.
2007-01-25 15:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I'm sorry about your miscarriage.
You're his wife. He's supposed to go to you if he needs someone to talk to. He's being a jerk. He should be there for you--you just suffered a major loss in your life. Your body just went through hell and needs some time to heal, mentally and physically. On top of that, you're raising two boys. I'm sure they have tons of energy, and your house is NOT quiet.
It sounds like both of you may need counseling to save the marriage. If he doesn't want to go, you have your answer to your first question.
2007-01-25 15:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by salsera 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave him!!! (I usually am a person who believes in giving second chances, even more when you're married, but..) An ex girlfriend from more than 7 years ago?! please.. he's up to something IF he hasn't been intimate with her yet! which I doubt it, you just had a miscarriage a week ago, he should have been supporting you. And....not just happy with all the mess he has created...he talks to her after fighting with you!!?? NO, don't work anything with him, chances are he won't stop talking and seeing her...don't put up with his stupidities..you deserve better!!
2007-01-25 15:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by fun 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me he's been seeing is ex for sometime now. If he need someone to talk to why wouldn't he talk to you about these things. (?) I mean you are his wife after all. Sounds to me he's cheating on you ..if a guy doesn't want sex he's getting it somewhere else. He keep this from you cause he had something to hide..His cheating...kick him out and tell him to go hell. Get a divorce from this cheater...
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2007-01-25 15:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's cheating. Believe it. Give him a week to prove to you that he's totally clean of her, with you allowed to be as police-ish and snoopy as you want to be. If he does it, try to work things out. If he won't do it, I would separate. It all depends on what you want, but if he's still seeing her in a month and you've done all you can to get him to quit, I would ditch him. I'm only saying try to stick it out because divorce is so sad, for everyone. It is my personal belief that people should try to work it out--not to impose that on you, though.
2007-01-25 15:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by thegirlwantstoknow 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Send him packing and move on. Stop snooping, stop waiting, and stop hoping. Pick yourself up by the bootstrap, hold your head high and send him to Amber with his suitcase. You owe no explanations but to love yourself first and don't settle for excuses. Just talking my ***-move on!
2007-01-25 15:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by LisaLou 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go with your Gut instinct! If you are searching for clues, you already know what time it is. Now you have to jump off of the fence one side or the other....
2007-01-25 16:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by á?¦à®?á?¦ Mo á?¦à®?á?¦ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to pack his stuff and kick him to the curb so fast it
would make his head swim, and let him know since he want to
talk to the ex because she there for him then let her have him
then they can be there for each other why you playing.
2007-01-25 15:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why does he need to call his ex??? i would get to the bottom of this and ask her...if you find out that he's cheating ,then you should get a divorce
2007-01-25 15:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he might be cheating on you...why call an ex girlfriend and not one of his buddies?_
2007-01-25 15:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋