I am a very lonely person....?

Question

Even though there are people that surround everyday I feel like I am always by myself. I don't have any friends because I stay cooped up in my house The only time that I go outside is to go to my job. (which I love by the way.) I just wish I can have someone in my life that can just pick me up from this heavy blanket of sadness. but I don't know how to attract the right person. Please someone help. Family aren't friends. I'm just so sick of this loneliness dragging on the ground beside me. I just can't shake it off. Thank you to everyone who answers my question or just reads it.

Answer 1

You may have a form of depression (I was diagnosed similarly and i have felt, and sometimes still fell the way you do now) and the best way to combat that is to seek couceling. Perhaps you feel a low sense of self worth. I'm not sure exactly because you don't really say anything about self esteem. What I was told in my sessions is to take baby steps... put yourself into a social situation (such as a coffee house) and observe people. Watch how they interact (don't gawk though)... and as you feel more comfortable bring a book (something eye catching to strangers) so people will be intrigued into asking what you're reading. From there, a conversation can start.
It sounds like you need to build up the social aspect of companionship before you try to fill a void that was created by you. Yes, its true... we are our own worst sabatuers (spelling) when it comes to feeling good about ourselves and getting out on the "scene".
Seek someone to talk to about you problems and perhaps a soultion can be found. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

I am sorry that you are lonely but i am glad you have your work. A job that you love is a very nice thing. I am sorry that your family are not your friends. I have always been a loner maybe for different reasons then those of yours. It does make life difficult. I have been mostly in the house for the past year-been real sick. No matter who you are or what you believe I do care that you are sad and i want you to know that i do! Please try to smile! I have pets if i didn't i couldn't stand it myself. I do like everyone-i said EVERYONE on YAHOO - sometimes this past year being in day and night and being in pain i could not have taken life as well without all of you and my pets. I am weird even a stray cat can tame me. Ha ha. My neighbors dogs come out to see me when i am in the yard. But i stay inside more now. I am doing better not as sick. Thank you for being here! I am straight but i still love you in a human way. Maybe i am not welcome here i don't know but i saw your question and i wanted to answer it and tell you i care. I hope you find happiness!

Answer 3

It's hard to attract anyone if they can't interact with you. Perhaps finding things to do besides going to work and staying cooped up in the house would help. Any particular activities you like? Then you can start to build a circle of friends, which would help with the loneliness.

I glanced over your other questions and it sounds like it would be a good idea to look into therapy. You may find that talking with someone about this stuff helps. It can be a place where you can talk out a lot of different issues. This support may be something that could help you get out of your shell.

Even if you do find the right person while feeling this lonely and down, please don't depend on them to just lift you up out of your misery. Sure being with someone can make things a lot better. But it's unfair to them if you are totally dependent on them for your happiness and stability.

You will find friends and you will get out of this sadness. It's just going to take a while and a lot of hard work. I'll be thinking of you!

Answer 4

I was in desperate need of help. This went on for 6 months until I asked my brother what was going wrong with me. I could walk down a busy street an it seemed like a grey haze. I lost my job and without the professional help that was obtained for me I was probably headed for a suicidal depression. Believe me, there is nothing wrong in seeking help, perhaps ask your GP first. Also, you could try some volunteering positions. There might be a local organization that lists them.
You have my support. Try to look out at the world. Love, Rose P.

Answer 5

Sounds like your depressed, seek therapy it works miracles. I know because i see my counselor twice a week. I pretty much stay in my room all day, but i have joined groups just in case i want to get out of the house. The problem with me is not finding someone per se, it's that i'm afraid of getting my heart broken again. I'm still healing from a broken heart i suffered in Sept. of last year. My counselor has helped me out a lot, just to have someone to talk to can help you a great deal and it really does make a difference. I battle sadness and anger on a daily basis, but i refuse to let it defeat me, i try to do something about it and you should also. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Stop staying cooped up in your house. If you stay cooped up in your house you can't expect someone to come to you, you've got to get out where you can meet other people and other people can meet you. Do things that you enjoy that will bring you in contact with other people. If friendships develop and you are comfortable in telling them that you are gay, maybe they know other gay people that they can introduce you to or maybe they will also be gay.

To find someone to have in your life, you can try online chat rooms without expecting to find a boyfriend but only expecting to find some friends. You can eventually meet those you like and see if friendships could develop, and have them introduce you to possible boyfriends. You could also try going to some gay bars without these same expectations, and try going to events where meeting other gay people is likely.

Answer 7

properly, if I had to confess it -- convinced, i'm a lonely human being. per chance it is 'cuz i'm extremely uncertain about my life immediately, and through this, i do not even sense like calling or putting out with the few acquaintances who stay interior the same city as me. And so right here i'm on Y!A...

Answer 8

Man just get out there and have some fun. go to a bar. look in the news paper for different functions going on try everything. join a club the elks play pool you can find all kinds of things to do in the news paper. what about yahoo singles or personals. you could meet some one that way.all you have to do is get out and try good luck

Answer 9

you sound a lot like me. most of my friends were origianlly made online, and they all live far away so i don't see them very often..

i know a computer is just, well, a computer.. but reach out and make online friends.. you can talk to them and really open up. heck, my online friends know more about me than my family and local friends.. heck, here i am on a website telling the world on my profile that i am a bisexual transgenderist who loves bra and panties! heck, most of my family have no idea!

but yah, just try to reach out and find some online friends, and if you are lucky, find ones that love near you, so you can eventually meet up and take things into a more real or official friendship!

Answer 10

I agree with Enigma. Maybe you have depression. Why don't you try talking to someone who can help you like psychiatrist, priest or pastors and doctors? Go out a little bit and try to have fun! You can play in the mall by yourself. How about reading a book?! This site can also help you... Choose to be happY!