Ok so i have like 4 best friends and two of them got in a fight just over a boy that they bothed like(stupid,huh?) So anyways they say their friendship is over and that i should pick a side to be on. two of my friends are going with one of my friends who got in a fight and my other friend who got in the fight is kinda on her own. I dont want to just pick my friend who is by herself i want to rekindle all of our friendship. We used to have major fun being all together and had lots of laughs together, i want us to be all friends again. Any advice on how to rekindle or work out this problem? any advice would be greatr. thank you so much!!!!
2007-01-25 14:07:07 · 14 answers · asked by <3Juicy.Couture.Love<3 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well first of all tell them how bad it feels to be caught in between this, and it isn't fair. Then show them many photos with of your old pictures together(when boys were NOT part of the picture). Try and laugh about all the great times you had. After laughing, crying, and talking about all the good memories get and show them a really small picture of the guy that was fought over right next to the many pictures of wonderful memories, and ask, "Will he be the bomb to split our friendship and our collage of wonderful memories apart? Is something so big, (make hand motions toward ALL the pictures, be ruined for something so small, (hold it in the palm of your hands)... Or shall we stick together and show that our bond is stronger for just one guy to ruin it all for us?... Look at each of their eyes deeply and hug them then say, "I first of all do NOT want this to happen. " And then give a really big heart-warming smile. Then ask with big eyes, "Do you?"
Long steps of advice and I really hope it helps. Because like MOST people say friendship is stronger and longer than the taste of love... Aloha and the best of luck to my little cousin!
2007-01-25 14:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by Hawaiian surf chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is probably to kinda let your friends work this out themselves. And you shouldn't have to chose sides. Just tell each of them that you want to continue being friends with both of them, even if you have to see them all separately. Neither of them should be petty enough to "unfriend" you for spending time with the other one. And if they do they aren't very mature anyway so you're probably better off without them. Chances are things will work themselves out in a few weeks anyway.
Good luck!
2007-01-25 14:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by gigagiggle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find a way to get all of your friends together at once,either online,on the phone,or in person. And all of you guys vent and express yourselves honestly , about what happened. You could even meet someplace where you like to go and hangout and get everything ,"all the hurt feelings and trouble out in the open. All of you guys will learn more about each other and your friendship. and your problems will be resolved.
I had to do this once when almost the same thing happened with me and my friends , and it works. "Happy Shopping"
2007-01-25 14:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by CLAIRE KC1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, NO man is worth breaking up a friendship. I would talk to the both of them, tell them that you are remaining nutral and tell them the above. Chances are he will tire of both of them fighting and want out anyway. Take care Heather
2007-01-25 14:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you don't feel like picking a side, you don't have to. but maybe you have the even harder job of being the peacekeeper, telling both your friends that they're being out of order. We all rely on our friends sometimes to be the middleman on our arguments. If you're a real good friend, you will tell each one if they are being a prat.
Good luck
2007-01-25 14:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by glim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who is a true friend to you would not put you in the horrible position of choosing sides. Tell them that, and if they persist then you know what kind of friend they really are.
2007-01-25 14:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by inkantra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to agree with Bic. Do what you want. You shouldn't have to choose between friends and if they make you choose then they're obviously not your friends. Friends will be your friends no matter who they like or dislike and it won't matter if you still want to be friends with their new sworn enemy. My advice is to leave them both alone and go on being you.
2007-01-25 14:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by Cliff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them exactly what you just told us...and good move on the "not taking sides" because that's the worst thing you can do...it's better if you completely get not involved with this because it can get messy...
2007-01-25 14:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by Hideaki Takizawa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them that no boy is worth losing a great friendship. this is happened to me, and we just all forgave each other. good luck! sorry i couldn't really give you more advice. that's all i got =/
2007-01-25 14:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by m i c h e l l e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have to pick a side, they need to sit down and work it out, pretty much what me and my ex bestfriend are going through, if you take one side, the other one is going to be mad and if you take the other vice-versa! so you need to all sit down and talk because taking sides is just going to make the matter worse
2007-01-25 14:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by flirtinbabe286 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋