I feel like something's wrong?

Question

I don't know what it is. Can't really explain it. I'm 17 years old right now. I'm turning 18 in March.
I don't know. I feel like something's wrong. Something's missing in my life. I feel a great loss. I feel sad and depressed almost everyday. I've lost hope in my future. I feel useless. My grades aren't too good in school. I'm getting Cs and Fs. I find myself doing a poor job in my school work. Sometimes I just walk around campus during classtime for no reason. I'm absent from school a lot. People tease me because I dress different. I dress like Marlon Brando from the movie, "The Wild One". People have thrown stuff at me and say things about me. I've talked to teachers about it. Even the principal. They've done nothing.
I'm bored most of the time at school. No friends. No girlfriend. I'm alone. My teachers say I've got Asperger's Syndrome, but I refuse to believe it. I feel normal.
I feel behind in life. I'm not driving yet. I'm not working yet. What about moving out?

I feel bad a bout myself. I feel alone. I worry a lot about my future. I'm not sure what to be. I feel like everything's going to fast. Time won't slow down for me. I'm going to be 20 before I know it. I'm going to graduate from High School. I'm going to College. I've never been on a date yet. Never met any girls. Never studied how to drive. Never had my first job. What about my parents? They're going to die in like 20 years. They've just turned 60? What about all of my stuff in my house? What's going to happen to all my stuff when I move out? I've got thousands of video tapes, etc

What's going to happen to my house?

I feel out of control.

Answer 1

Whoa there Nelly...aren't you jumping the gun just a little?? You are very young to be so overwhelmed by thoughts of things that for the most part you have ABSOLUTEY NO CONTROL!!! I know that you feel like on some level you have reached adult hood...at your age I felt quite the same way and did suffer from some of the emotions that you describe. However, Rome was not built in a day! You have to take one issue at a time and try to figure out what you can do to change things in your life. 17 is hard because we have very little control over our own destinies, but let me assure you that I am now 33...I still don't quite know what I want to do when I "grow up" and you know what?? That's okay...
I don't like to hear that anyone is being harassed as you describe and that the administration at your school is so lax about coming to your aid... You really must talk to your parents and the school and if need be the Superintendant of Schools until someone listens to you, but do not do anything rash....trust me this too shall pass...As far as the symptoms of depression go...see your family doctor and get a referral to a good psychiatrist if need be...only you live in your own skin...if you know that you just don't feel right you have to take the first steps to fix things....welcome to adulthood.

You have sooooo much more life to experience and even though things seem bad now all of life's experiences are for us to learn by. I'm sure that if you think it over you will find that you are, by going through all of this, learning something about yourself and at 17 that's exactly what you should be doing. I hope that things get better for you, but you must keep in mind that you do have a role in what happens to you..."The squeeky wheel gets the oil!" Don't give up on you!!! Take care & good luck!

Answer 2

Dont worry bro, What you feel is exactly what many other people have felt at that time of there life, including me. You should get a dont care attitude in some cases. CDS, DVDS, MOVIES ..... let it go to hell, who cares. better yet give it to the poorer class in the society. It will make you feel good.

See everybody wants hard to be distinct in school, but a few can, you already have done it, you are distinct.

About girls, yea you rally should get a girl. It is exactly what you are missing dude. you have no idea how beautiful a girl can be, and i am not just talking about her physics(well ofcourse that is a very important thing).

Listen here are some pointers to get a GF. next time in school find the girl that you like the most, given that you know she is not taken, introduce your self, if you already dont know her. then tell her that "ok here is the deal i am a complete weirdo and i know what people think about me and may be they are right, but i think you are cool and cute, and i was hoping if you wouldn't mind going out with me sometimes." if she says ok then ask her for a date right away, if she says no, then no problem, you have nothing to lose. Try it with another girl. do it dude, girls are too cool.

Answer 3

You are worrying about a lot of stuff that you don't need to worry about yet. If you want to change things, you are the only one who can, assuming that there is nothing medically working against you here. What I;m hearing is that you totally aren't interested in ANYTHING. You want girls, get with the program, forget about the girls for the moment. put every ounce of your being into your school work. You are laying down the foundation for the rest of your life and unless you want to spend the rest of your life exactly as you are now, you need to get your butt in gear. Now, this won't be easy, but when people (girls) start to notice you are trying to change, they will come around, the more you apply yourself, the more confident you will become and for some reason you'll have more Friends. Continue on the road you are on and I see not much more than a lonely park bench and a bottle in a brown paper bag for you my Friend, you decide.

Answer 4

Your almost 18 so you can move away soon. Things may not be great now but they will get better. You are so young and have a lot to look forward to. I'm 23 and still dont know exactly what I want in life either. I think you should move and start new. Start going to college and taking classes you think you'd be interested in. And so what if you never had a girlfriend you will get one someday. I think your just depressed right now and if you make changes in your lifestyle it might help and if not you should see a doctor and you can take anti-depressents.

Answer 5

Hey, You are so young, You have so much life to live and discover. I was 18 when I finally got my drivers license, and today I am actually glad about it. I think it is best to wait because you are more developed in your reflexes. As for not fitting in... Believe me, everyone feels the same way sometimes... You have got to start believing yourself! Don't expect too much of your self just begin trying to see the best in life a little at a time. You have got to give to get so start trying to reach out in the most practical of ways. Hold open someones door, or give someone your place in line... You will see a change begin in your own... life. Isn't it worth a try?

Answer 6

You said you feel "normal"- at the same time you admit to being sad, depressed, and doing poorly in school for some reason. That's NOT "normal" my friend, nor is expecting others to go out of their way to help you... Get a grip! YOU want your life to amount to something- then get out there & DO something with it! If you're depressed- get counciling; if you're lonely- BE a friend to someone who needs one; if you're bored- find something to get interested & involved with... None of this is going to fall into your lap just because you want it to. As for moving out- great idea...-What's your plan? What kind of job are you looking into to pay the bills? If you don't drive yet- how will you get back & forth to work? This is YOUR life, & these are YOUR decisions... -Get out there & MAKE something happen- before life makes something happen to YOU! Hang in there- & good luck!

Answer 7

The first thing one needs to know in life is our purpose and who we are in actuality. You are actually gaining intelligence because you are feeling bad or empty because you don't know what that is yet. Animals can't question their existence but we can. We are not these bodies, IE; race, color, nationality, religion, mind, intellect, senses, job, etc. We are eternal spirit souls, part and parcel of the Supreme Soul, also known as Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, Vishnu, etc. We have to reconnect to be truly happy in life. This world is called Maya(illusion) which is temporary and full of misery. The quickest way to get out of illusion and misery is to chant the Maha Mantra (the great mantra for deliverance from suffering and misery) go to harekrishnatemple.c for all details. Read Bhagavad Gita As it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada- which gives the purpose and meaning to human life It is so enlivening when one knows reality who they really are. It made me so happy.

Answer 8

It sounds like everything right now that you're worried about is out of your control. When I feel that way, there is only one thing I can do--ask God for help. Tell Him about all of your worries and fears, and you may not see things work out just the way you planned, but He will help you and give you peace like you have never felt before. Try reading the Bible; start in the Gospel of John. He will help you, and He wants to help you. Jesus is what is missing in your life.

Answer 9

Why did he kiss you. Did he %. up a sign that made him think of you have been involved. And to call him a jerk and forget approximately him and manage him terrible because of the fact he became a bad kisser and you probably did no longer want him to kiss you. supply me a smash. at some point karma will bite you interior the ***. And confident you're incorrect, way incorrect.

Answer 10

Your solution is to get rid of anexity and start to live your life..Socilizing and get rid of this feeling. Let your mind thinks positively look optimistically to your fuure and present..Anyone can die any time you can not assume when and how and where. By leaving this feelings control your life it will hurt you and will not enjoy your life tomorrow so work hard and hard and hard to divert your negative thoughts and develop socializing skills. YOU CAN DO IT just try and keep trying it takes some time but you will be able to enjoy life and have many friends and gfriend.