We are married for almost two years, and we have a child together. I know that in the movies you just KNOW if you love the guy, but I am confused. I adore him, but when we argue (and we do so constantly) i feel as if i almost hate him. He makes me cry something awful.
2007-01-25 13:29:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have 2 choices and you know what they are. Time is ticking as well.
2007-01-25 13:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by PrettyEskimo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. The fact that we are all unique people is why we don't always agree with what the other one says. Both of you should know how to handle it in an orderly fashion, especially with a child at home. If it is him who gets all loud, give him his time alone. Cool off before you talk something over.
Do I think you love your husband? Yes... if it was only physical attraction, then you would have left him the moment you saw that the arguments were a constant. Remember that it is not what you look at that matters, it is what you see... Attraction does not keep you next to a man that you argue with a lot. The fact that you are with him shows me that you wish that things got better everyday. Get marriage counseling or sit and talk to him for a while. Don't raise your voices, just talk. Don't critizize each other's flaws or you'll just end up arguing again. Nobody is perfect. Talk about things that happen that you are both not necessarily happy about and what would be a great way to change it. If there is true love between the both of you and you BOTH commit to change (because he must not be the only one to blame... it is almost never the case...) then it will work.
2007-01-25 13:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by Magy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married to him so you should know if you love him or not.
I have been married for just about 7 years and there will come a time in your marriage where you both will feel like you do not want to be together. It's a test! If you really love him you will stay. If not you will move on. Just follow you heart and don't be so quick to walk away! This is why some many marriages do not last, because people are to quick to walk away..........
together 14 / married 6
2007-01-25 13:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you argue you get angry, that isn't hatred. If you didn't love your husband would you have given birth to his child? Would you take the time to make up after an argument or would you just walk out? With attraction there is no substance. I'm atracted to a number of men, some know some are "famous" but there is nothing more to it. How do you know if you love your husband? You're still there aren't you?
2007-01-25 13:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up will you. Love is not the only way you measure a relationship. Is he responsible, nuturing, supportive, on the same wave length as you when it comes to the goals you want to accomplish? If you answered yes to two or more questions, then you should stop asking dumb questions. If you did not answer yes to any of the questions, then you two need to put things in another gear.
2007-01-25 13:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by i_squeeze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you looked in his eyes at the altar two years ago there was a special feeling shared by two people that feeling I choose to refer to as love,things happen that may cloud what the eye sees therefore working on relationships is necessary if you dont that cloud will remain and that love might just turn into a mere attraction
2007-01-25 14:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by poet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love him now but that constant arguing will eventually tear you apart and kill your love. We can hate our spouse during an argument and love him later. But not for long the way you are going. I know what I'm talking about here.
2007-01-25 13:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little late to second guess your choice of huband, isn't it? Every marriage goes through tough times. You have a child. Try to make it work. If it's too painful and he isn't willing to try as well, then maybe you should end it.
2007-01-25 13:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by Kodoku Josei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure, maybe you thought it was right, but it wasnt
you should goto marriage therapy
2007-01-25 13:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mr_wall2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋