Me and my husband been together for almost 9 yrs. and been married for almost 2 yrs. And we both had an affair one time should we be together and we have 3 kids.A girl and two boys. I'm just very heart broken because his affair lasted for one hole year. And I wonder if she would have not have called me to tell me that she was having a baby by my husband will they have kepted on messing around.
2007-01-25 13:28:27 · 8 answers · asked by brownsugarsweet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should leave the situation. The both of you have cheated,and whats the point ,when you are now seemingly feel heart broken? He is going to be a father of another woman's baby,let him be with her and do his duty because its apparent you two don't have kids,and its just better that you leave with what ounce of dignity you have left,then stay around and watch your husband,graddle a baby that isn't the both of your's and an experience you can share.
2007-01-25 13:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say call it quits. Why stay in this marriage? So much has happened. Yes, you have kids but do you want them to think it is okay how you guys live? Are the children aware of the affairs? If counseling wont help, then you may as well split up now.
2007-01-25 13:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband want to make this so-called marriage work you both need to get some marriage counseling right away.
If you didn't have children together I would say get a divorce.
Married people who love and respect each other don't have affairs and children with other people
2007-01-25 14:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so distraught if you cheated on him as well as he cheated on you? Who can hope to save a marriage when both parties are cheaters, who can trust the other or call the other into question? Sticky situation.
2007-01-25 13:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave him but i am not you and neither are these other people. you have to go with what is in your heart especially since he got the chick pregnant. he was not even considerate enough to use protection. who knows what he could have brought home to you. and also keep in mind that this woman will always be in your life now because she is also the mother of is child, therefore, he will always see her and you will not know if they are 'completely' over.
2007-01-25 14:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by Butta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dontcha love double standards. Hurt when he did it but not the other way around...
you both need to grow up and quit being selfish.
2007-01-25 14:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am sorry all this is happening. This is a hard situation to deal with. I hope you can find peace with this. It sounds very distressing. Good luck.
2007-01-25 14:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is past is past.
put it away and move on.
you have a family to consider.
2007-01-25 14:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋