All of my friends hate my parents. The reason is because my mom is strict and they think shes a ***** and my dad is overweight and plays this game like D and D and they always say stuff like "oh i wish your dad would stop playing his game so we could go on the computer" I think the reason they do this is because I complain about them. How can make them see that what they're saying is really offensive without telling them? It sort of is just ok when I say it and I HATE it when they do.
2007-01-25 13:26:19 · 9 answers · asked by Cloudyday 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Stand up for them. Say LOOK, I know I have complained about them, but these are people I love and if you are my friend you won't trash my parents. Also try not to complain about them. Maybe there are times you need to vent, but it sounds like you actually honor your parents, and maybe you could talk to your parents about how you feel rather than complain. This too - there can be a difference in saying the facts about a situation, and complaining about it. Sometimes a fact is that you feel a certain way. But the thing is to be responsible for what you leave people thinking.
I think it is awesome that you love your parents enough to want to ask this question. God bless you.
2007-01-25 13:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mom with a teen. First of all, it has depended upon what impression you have given your friends about your parents and your home life. Sure, it's natural to complain sometimes, but maybe at some point you went overboard. The rule in our home is that what happens at home is private, and stuff about home stays at home. Not the general stuff, like our places of work, and stuff we do, but other personal stuff.
I think you could let your friends know the next time they say something, that "oh, it's not so bad as I let on..." or say that you were exaggerating. That might help. This actually is something that you can maybe talk to your parents, or one of them that you feel okay about it, with. Don't feel bad about bringing a subject like this up.
My husband and I are not perfect parents, but we do the best we can. Most parents are like this, but we all have our little quirks. When our kid's friend are around us, they get to know us a bit and actually end up liking us a lot. You see, we strongly believe in not judging a book by its cover - we don't distinguish between sizes of people, or their skin colour, or medical conditions they might have, etc. - and we have raised our teen this way.
Hope you can resolve this soon, so YOU feel better.
2007-01-25 13:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have complained about are parents, at one time or another, but friends are not allowed to. When you complain about your parents, you are just venting your frustrations, your friends should just listen, but not add their opinions. The next time some one says your mother is too strict, just say, "yea, but she loves me SO much, I guess she gets worried about me easily, doesn't your mom?, no?, oh, that's too bad", that out to put them in their place. If they complain about your father being on the computer, well excuse them, it's HIS house, and he paid for the computer, he should have frist access to it, not your friends. Your friends tend to be a bit rude, maybe your are the one who can teach them some manners, and social skills, because they clearly have not learned them, from thier parents, and at least you have been taught, to be sensitve, of insults to your parents, thank you for that.
2007-01-25 14:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you don't want to hear anything about your parents. Talk about something else. Your parents are so strict because they love you so very much. Stand up to your friends and say thats enough. And you yourself dont complain to your friends about your parents.
2007-01-25 13:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you really need to not complain about your parents if you want your friends not to join in. As it is, you set the standard and they empathize. The best way to stop them would be to stop yourself and if they say anything negative about the 'rents, tell them you know you used to make comments, but you feel bad about it and wish they wouldn't say anything either as you find it hurtful.
2007-01-25 13:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by kiddo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just say that it hurts your feelings and that you would like it for them to stop saying stuff like that about your parents
2007-01-25 13:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by - 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they do this because you complain about your parents then stop complaining about your parents to your friends.just stop talking to your friends and when they ask you why you are not talking to them just tell them that you hate when they are talking about your parents,if they are true friends they will stop talking about your parents just to keep you as a friend.
2007-01-25 13:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by mack j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crutial you have to stand up for family you will find that as life goes on they will all fall away and family will be all that is left.
2007-01-25 13:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with elle[:
2007-01-25 13:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Wonder Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋