this old friend of mine came into my life, we're clasmeyts wayback in high school he's my ultimate crush... we studied in different university wen we turned to college, he texted me and told he wants to see me, we've met and he was my first kiss!! after the kiss we bcame close with each ader and i thought he's going to be my bf but i lost my cp and our communication has stopped, after 6 yrs im already working and have a bf for 5years, as i chcked my old email acct. coz i forgot the password i found out that he sent a lot of msgs. and he also indicate his cell. # so i txted him so, we met agen, i found out that he has a gf for 5years also just like me, we see n talk 2 each ader very often,until sumting happned between us, we made love many times,i know that we're both cheating our bf and gf but we tried to stop what we had but it's very difficult b'coz i still have feelings for him, now he's avoiding me and it really hurts me lot.. he told me he loves me bt dat's nt d ryt ting 2 do.
2007-01-25 13:21:02 · 13 answers · asked by cled29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
SMART U, thought of having the best of two worlds.........hmmmm ..
U R ONLY REAPING WHAT U SOWED.......
2007-01-26 08:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by smile2u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dont u realise what u have been doing or have done? Or what ur old schoolmate has done and is now saying? r u really that dumb? unbelievable.
You met him after a long time and had ur first kiss, ok. no problem so far. then u never had a contact with him for 5 yrs and suddenly u wake up to ur old lost password and get all the mails and just walk into the arms of ur first kiss, inspite of him and u urslef having ur own bfs and gfs for the past five yrs. U had a fling, fine again. but why repeated flings if both of you really carefor love or ur bfs and gfs? And now u want to make love to him and he says its not right? funny? when did it start not being right? was it right the first time he had it with u? He has plainly had his fun with you and right from the beginning he must have been very clear that its a no commitment relationship. ON your part u knew u were cheating on ur bf and still kept on cheating? funny again. The best option for you is eithter the two of you leave ur partners and get married or just leave one anther. Of course you can part like old friends with the knowledge and understanding that u both had a whale of a time while it lasted and that time is now over. So put on ur thinking cap and get going. Take a decision now or may be u will lose not one but two friends.
Good luck to u
2007-01-27 08:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sumit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right, It is most definitely not the right thing to do... just imagine how you would feel if your bf would do the same thing to you.
If you two have strong feelings for each other and it is not just some sex rush or hard crush, then sit and talk to decide what to do. You both are hurting others while you have fun. Don't do that. If you both are convinced that you want to be together, then end both of your relationships before you continue doing this... All four of you are adults and if it is what you want to do, let nobody stop you, but don't step on others on the way.
2007-01-25 13:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by Magy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with yourself here. He's right, it's not the right thing to do, but he knew that when he agreed to see you etc. when you love someone u don't ask yourself if it's the right thing to do, u simply give it all u got come what may. Seems more like he is taking you for a booty call, nothing else. Plus, he enjoys himself when he's with you, he has a good time, and that's it. I think you should end this affair because it's not fair to you, to your bf, or to this guys gf. Be honest, if u don't love your bf, tell him to give u space until you get this resolved. Avoid this guy until he shows u that he is willing to do anything to be in a relationship with you. If he doesn't then u know what it meant to him.
2007-01-25 13:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by gracy808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years is a long time to be in a relationship, but if you are not married and this man you are in a relationship with, does not make you happy and you are not in love with him, it is better you two were not together. If you do love this man that your have this relationship with, then try to work on this, you have already shared so much together. But again if you do not love him, and I gather you don't for your heart seems else-where, I would leave.
You might not get the one you love back but at least you are showing some dignity, honesty and honor with your life. If you take a stand the one you love might find the courage to do the same, and come back to you. It is not like he is married to this other person. As much as it is wrong to hurt anyone, he will realize that without love no partnership is worth it. Love is the cement that holds couples together. Take courage and do what your heart is asking you to do and hopefully you can make things better for yourself and for the one you love and the other two. They might not like it, but they will come to realize if they have not already, that they are not truly loved and it better to be loved than not loved at all. Hopefully one day they will find someone to love them for them.. Good Luck and God Bless
2007-01-25 13:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 07:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are crying about being hurt. You walked into the life of someone who had a committed relationship, as well as you were in one too. You both made a mistake. Do you want to risk your boyfriend over a quickie with someone who regrets it with you? I don't think you want to subject yourself to that. Carry on with your personal life and leave that one alone.
Gmomma
2007-01-25 13:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
typical,"oh we had a high school fling and I never got over it". But it doesn't justify you cheating on your boyfriend,especially over someone,who supposedly,"had a girlfriend for five years also". go figure. You've been used,and he's avoiding you because he's got what he wanted, is leaving you to pay the prices.
2007-01-25 13:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be confused....
its the deciding time now...
its you who have to decide it now...
don't cheat yourself....
make a decision and be firm on it...
5 years is a pretty big span lady...
your old friend is already commuted to someone else...and so are you dear..don't waste your time and feelings for someone with whom you don't have a future...
take time and decide on your own...
good luck....
2007-01-26 21:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by ruprekhawati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some self respect.
2007-01-25 13:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by i_squeeze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋