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Question

There's this guy at my gym, he's actuaaly a trainer there, and my problem, is the fact that I don't know if he's flirting with me or not.For instance, around christmas, he came up to me and asked me how my holidays and I told him it was okay, then he asked me, who did I spend it with.And then there was another occasion where he came up to me and told me I looked sad, and wanted to see me smile, and as I was leaving asked me when will I be back.I'm thinking , well maybe he's just being friendly, but he's always telling me to text message him for trainer sessions, and i told him several times, I'm a broke *** college student, and I cannot afford them, but then he's still asking me to told me to call him on his cell phone for a free session, and he told me not to worry about it...and so i told him I would let him know but he will text me, and tell me that he wants to hook me up, and money is no problem, so I booked the free session, but my question is why is he being so pushy

And then yesterday..he comes up to me and chat a litle bit, and then at the end of the conversation, Itold him well I gotta get going, and he asks me "How come everytime I see you you're leaving'" and adds"I'm not ruining your experience here at the gym" I'm thinking hmmm intresting

Answer 1

What you think is often times not what's true, however you really won't know unless you take that grand step & inquire of his intentions.

If he's a gentleman, he'll understand your asking. Regardless of this, always keep your guard up...you can still see through the gloves, just keep them up.

See what he's all about, be safe, and have fun!

Answer 2

Could be that he's interested in you or that he's just trying to get you to sign up for $$$ lessons. If you see other trainers around chatting up people in the same way, it's probably just a sales tactic. Also, if he's talking up any other potential clients, that's probably the deal.

Even if that's so, he may still be interested. If you're interested in him, look for opportunities to talk about doing something outside the gym. Maybe ask him if he wants to get coffee sometime. If he backs off, you know he's selling. If he accepts, you'll have a better idea, but he STILL could be selling.

I think you probably just have to play this one out and see where it goes.

Answer 3

It's pretty clear that he likes you. Is that really so hard for you to see? If you like him, go with it, but if you're not interested, you should make that clear too. You don't want to lead him (or anyone else) on. I don't think that it was a good idea to accept the free session if you're not interested. He may be a nice guy, but believe me, not many things in life are free. If you don't "get" this now, you will eventually. Be careful and good luck!

Answer 4

okay, here's the deal --- i think he's flirting with you - i'm working from personal experience though, judging from your comments, if i put myself in his shoes and said those types of things to a woman, i would probably be flirting with her, at the very least trying to have little conversations with her, every now and again, you know, trying to get to the point where you're comfortable with me and vice-versa -- maybe eventually someone you could confide in or talk to when things aren't going so good for or him -- the best way for you to answer your question is to observe him a couple of days and see if that's his behavior with everyone -- by the way, it seems to me that ur a little curious yourself, maybe you can end all this mystery by steppin' to him, i mean hey, it is the 21st century

Answer 5

this guy likes you and it seems like he is being genuinely interested in you but then if he is getting too close for comfort just tell him to give you some breathing space