My husband has decided to file for divorce after us being together for 7 years, married 5. He says he still loves me very much and doesn't want to see me marry anyone else but can't be married to me right now. He says he just wants to focus on our 5 year old little boy and his career. Please help me understand where he is coming from. One day he is all nice to me and calling me just for small talk then other days he tells me to leave him alone he has made his decision. Can God change this??
2007-01-25 12:54:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, just pray and ask him. I'll be praying for you both too
2007-01-25 13:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by DeAnna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God can change any marriage, but it works so much better when God changes our hearts. Your hubby's doing something...cheating, heavy porn, something.....the reason he's giving for leaving is just ludirous...he still loves you but he's divorcing...and he wants to concentrate more on his son and career? What a load of garbage.
I think what you do is say no way you're granting a divorce until he can at least man up and tell you the real reason. Tell him you're not an idiot, and nobody in their right mind would divorce under such circumstances, so he needs to at least fess up to the real motivation. The only way you're going to have a chance is to shake him up into at least being honest with you about why.
2007-01-25 14:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless your husband lets him. It sounds like your husband is very confused... If he can't "handle" being married right now, what would be the problem with a temporary separation? Why go through the trauma and financial strain of a divorce? If you want God to change this, get in touch with a counselor or minister/pastor/priest through your church and start working on YOU. Then, if and when the time is right, try bringing your husband in on the counseling.
2007-01-25 13:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but he's probably either gay or in love with someone else.
God isn't going to come down and fix this. I say take the divorce, have a judge set a decent amount of spousal and/or child support, depending on which state you're in, and then start your life over again.
Plus, if he's divorcing you, he has no right to tell you you can't marry someone else - that choice is entirely up to you and no one else. You can decide how much influence this man has over you, and if you don't want to let him control you, that's that.
2007-01-25 13:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Guernica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes God sure can change your marriage but you really have to pray hard for the marriage and trust God for that.... be the wife that God wants you to be for your husband. Love him where he is at and trust God for him. Leave him on the alter and take your hands off of the situation and trust God completely with it... I know this is hard to do but you will be better for it. .May I also recommend you buying and reading the book The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartin... You can buy it at Walmart... Excellent book let me tell you... It helped me get through the rough times with my husband and it really spoke to my heart. Very insightful and helpful book. I can feel your pain and i will be praying for you in this and I pray that God will work a miracle and restore your marriage... If over time he still wants out the bible does say that if the unbelieveing spouse wants out to let him depart that a brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases... Here comes lots of hugs your way.
http://www.marriagetoday.org
2007-01-25 13:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a HUGE piece of the puzzle missing here. He's going to have to do better than focusing on his career for grounds for divorce, because that's just silly. If he loves you he would stick it out. As for not wanting you to move on, he can't have it both ways. What is this about anyway? You can't find a remedy to the situation if you don't know what the problem is. As for God, "God helps those who help themselves".
2007-01-25 14:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by Shorty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God can change your marriage...the word says we have not because we ask not, Jesus said to ask the Father believing and we shall recieve, it is His delight to give to His children, cast your cares upon Him, nothing is impossible for Him...etc etc etc. It can take some time but if you stand and trust God..with some agreement in prayer things are happening so very quickly. I'ld love to pray with you, to pray through. Ppl have their own will, but I promise you God has your best in mind..His will is for you and not to harm you. If you ask Gods will, His best for you and just let Him have everything in your life, you will be happier than you've ever dreamed, He knows the best and has a plan. God is a restorer, and when He turns the Holy Spirit loose to work for us things are going to happen. If the devil can't steal your joy he can't keep your goods. GBU
2007-01-27 10:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by Josie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god can't change your husband's free will, but prayer does work, u can find peace in god, doesn't mean u will get the prayer answered, just means u will find some peace. your husband sounds confused, wants to focus on the child, doesn't want to see u married to anyone else, but wants to divorce, sounds as if he is cheating, and wants to do what he wants to do, and wants the option to return if it doesn't work out with the other person. keeps u from moving on and isn't fair at all. i would give him his divorce, but wouldn't wait on him to return to u. just pray about it, but we don't always get the prayer answered the way we want it. as god knows the things we don't know.
2007-01-25 14:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God can change anything when he is inviting in to change the marriage. If you and your husband come to God in prayer he can help restore your marriage. I suggest some Christain Counseling. Your husband seems to feel overwhelmed.You all probably need to try to work this out!!! Always remember our time is not God time and sometimes we as human don't have the faith to work throught he ups and downs that comes with a marriage. I pray for you and your marriage. I hope you all will try counseling and remember if you beleive God can do anything but fail!!! You must beleive!!
2007-01-25 13:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes and No, God cannot come down and change the situation that you are in physically. God can come into your life and your heart if you ask Him to. Praying is very therapeutic and can help you with clarifying your decision that you make. If you chose to make God a part of your life and you use His teachings to guide you, your path will be clearer. Talk to your priest, pastor or spiritual leader and see if they can offer you more insight into how God can help you through your troubled times. I have found that praying is a wonderful way to feel closer to God and it puts me more at ease with the decisions that I have had to make in my life.
If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.
2007-01-25 13:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God can't make those decisions for you or him, but you can pray about it and ask for His guidance. Also a lot of churches have divorced and separated groups. If you are seeking spiritual help in dealing with this I would check it out.
2007-01-25 13:06:46 · answer #11 · answered by Jem 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋