Relationships?

Question

Me and my friend were arguing over what's right and wrong in a relationship..like when each of us get boyfriends.

But anyways...she says that it's ok to have a girlfriend like another guy even though she has a boyfriend.

And I told her....NO....it's ok to be confused about a relationship but they better think about it really really hard and figure out who they want to be with.

Then she argues that it's not going to lead into marriage and it's just a highschool relationship.

I told her that in order for a relationship to be full and pure each of them needs to be dedicated to each other.

She says: NOT MARRIAGE! Doesn't matter. Still ok for a person to have a crush on someone else when they are on a relationship.


I believe I am right on this but....that's mostly what people think...that they are the right ones and everyone else is wrong. So what do you think? PERSONAL Opinions please.

Answer 1

Use condoms ,don`t get married until at least 25 years old.

Answer 2

The problem isn't with liking or having a crush on someone else when you're in a relationship. Even married men/women see others that they find attractive. It's a different story if you're with one person and have deep feelings for another... at that point you should probably reevaluate your relationship. The other thing is how far you let it go. Thinking another guy is good looking, or friendly, or would make a good boyfriend is one thing... flirting with him or trying to take it further is something you should probably avoid.
If it's a serious relationship, you're right, you should be dedicated to the one you're with.
And just cause it's HS doesn't mean anything... I've been with my husband since I was 14 - I'm now 28.
Neither of you will change the other's mind. You both have your own morals and opinions, and that probably won't change.

Answer 3

Well sometimes people do have small crushes or get confused about a certain person. As long as your totally committed to the person your with and don't go any further with the other guy (even verbally... you don't have to have sex for it to be considered cheating) it's fine and probably will fade away. But if it's a reoccurring thing that someone is always developing crushes it can be a sign of problems in the relationship. It's OK for her to think of her relationship as just a high school thing as long as her boyfriend agrees to that and she doesn't hurt him or lead him on.

Answer 4

No. She's wrong..it's not OK to have a crush on someone when you're in a relationship. Any relationship could lead to marriage...unless it's totally not meant to be. Just tell your friend that the whole entire point of dating someone is to see if they are the ones you want to mary.. not just someone to fool around with and not care about at all...to just use and abuse JUST because you're a little bored. Tell her to remember...what goes around, comes around. One day, the same thing just might happen to her... she'll getused and abused just as she's doing.

Good luck!

*(and p.s: I LOVE YOUR AVATAR"S HAIRSTYLE! I was going to get the same for mine, but it didn't go well.. are you a Japan-freak like me as well?)

Answer 5

That kind of a person will jump in and out relationships. Hurting everyone they go with. You have the right idea. I only hope there is a decent women near to me. View my new 360 blog and call me if you like.

Answer 6

I think you're both right

She has a point in that when your young, and its just high school relationships, its important not to take anything too seriously - its normal to have a few relationships when you're young, thats how you learn about what you want when you're ready for a serious relationship.

When you are ready, its very important to think really hard about who you want to be with, and for the relationship to be full and pure.

Answer 7

ok feel both of you especially if you all are young.But listen to this if you do not want that men to have friends then why would you put yourself in that perdicularmentknowing that you would be upset. But how you to handle the fact when you get married because at the rate she is going it is not going to be with this guy .So you really do not have any confidence about being with the one you are with because if you don't do not waist his time and you need to be single so you soe your royal oats.And not get people feelings involved

Answer 8

She is wrong, relationships are about honesty and dedication, no matter whether they are just high school relationships or not. I mean if she feels this way now, how is she going to feel when she is in her 30s? Is she going to say that is okay because it is just a mid-age relationship?

Answer 9

Personal opinions are what they are - personal. Each is different.

Until someone understand the greatness of sacrifice one's life for the love of another, marriage will never see its greatest fulfillment.

Let her learn her way. My sister tried that and she is almost 40.
Three kids, three different fathers...and she still doesn't care.

Answer 10

I think ur right, but dont take it too far because it is just high school. I think you should know who ur with and try to have a "full and pure" relationship.

Answer 11

id be hurt if someone i was wit was confused whether or not he likes me, i think even tho its HS and not marrige, its still a relationship and commitment is commitment, theres no way around it, if you chose a person to be with you have to be sure that thats the one youre gonna stick to