How do you make new friends in life? I have a hard time making new friends and I am not sure if it comes from moving every 3 yrs when i was younger or my shyness being mistaken for snobbiness, I find it hard to find things to say when talking to new people, then my silence becomes unnerving and people just leave me standing there, anyone have any advice??
2007-01-25 12:48:40 · 4 answers · asked by cwolf325 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well....most of my friends, are friends from work, of course I have worked at the same place for years.
I also joined the gym, to keep in shape, and after I had been going for a while, 6 months down the road I see the same faces come in, ..pretty soon you just say hi...then the next thing you know, I have a pretty good racquet ball partner, It is like we have know each other for years! now she has introduced me to some of her friends, and well....The beat goes on!!
I wasn't even trying to meet friends, I was trying to stay in shape ,
so there you go, there is one example of how to do it.
Do You like Art? take a Art class...do you like bowling ?? join a league.
Good Luck !!
2007-01-25 13:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, if you won't talk, you can't expect people to talk to you, it just doesn't work like that anymore....I've notice in college that more and more students are less socially adept than before, I don't know what it is from, but my suspicion is all these electronics! I wear my iPod on the way to class, sit in a lecture hall, put my iPod back on and then go home to an apartment I don't share with anyone. It's been hard for me to make friends, and I'm not shy either. The best thing that I have done is to find some meetings/groups/stuff to do on campus that interests me, I go to these to check them out to see if I want to continue coming. I've met a couple of people and formed a couple tentative freindships and it's all based on our common interests. I say, do the things that you enjoy (the group things, that is) and just try to say "hello" to the same 2 or 3 people each week (or meeting time). It will help break the ice and hopefully someone a little more gregarious than you will start the conversation. It's lonely out there if you won't talk, you will have to at least look like an open and friendly person to get a beginning response....
2007-01-25 21:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea, you are really shy might be the problem may be your topics of disscusion are well... boring! you need to talk about something that is going on currently and that they will be interested in. It is really hard making new friends after moving, so just find a group and go sit with them and talk and laugh. they will like you (if you do that!)
2007-01-25 20:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by wind it up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, i have. i always do like this, if i am shy i would try not to speak bad words and be calm always. try to help the person you want to be his or her friend although you can ask her/him if you don't understand what your teacher says.
2007-01-25 20:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by Boru T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋