Today I discovered why a guy in my class is trying to get to know my friend. He pays her complements on her clothing, acts funny, and does nice things for her(i.e. giving her rides home and stuff like that), he's also hanging out with her a lot as well. It's so obvious to me.
I had suspicions at first on what his motives were but now I know what they are, he's trying to seduce her for sex. how do I tell her what his true motives are and should I tell her at all, is it taking a risk that she might tell him or throw my concern back in my face? is there any chance that I could cause some risk to myself?
2007-01-25 12:45:16 · 9 answers · asked by taxman_ll 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I really care about and I don't to see anything like this happen to her. she's a really nice person, it saddens and angers me to see something like this happen to a person like her.
2007-01-25 12:53:04 · update #1
she just met him last week when we started our spring semester classes.
2007-01-25 12:54:03 · update #2
to answer fizz's question, she wouldn't seduce a guy, I've known for over a year and she's not the seducing type. also she's naive about a lot of subjects too.
2007-01-25 13:02:14 · update #3
an additional question is, how would I approach the subject?
2007-01-25 13:05:50 · update #4
If you feel sure of his motives, letting your friend know would be a caring thing to do. If she's not ready to listen and wants to do it on her own, a good friend would also let her make her own mistakes.
The key is how you come across. I'd be apologetic/semi-embarrassed, and let out a disclaimer that she can agree with you or dismiss your ideas. You won't be offended/will still be there for her as a friend. Then listen to what she thinks, and accept it.
Everyone experiences heartbreak at somepoint, and that's how we go from naivete to being the wiser. I haven't always liked being told "how things are," I feel like part of life is figuring this out on my own/growing as a person.
And friends are what matter. He'll likely come and go, make sure you don't endanger the real solid relationship (=friendship).
2007-01-25 13:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by joie_du_cor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, hes not really doing anything that most guys would not try, is he? Hopefully she is smart enough to not fall for any crap. If you intruded into their relationship, They would both probably think you are just jealous and trying to cause trouble. Have some faith in her and her ability in handling this. Be there for her if she wants to talk...Good Luck
2007-01-25 20:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what all guys do. How do you know your friend is not playing the game also to seduce the guy.
2007-01-25 20:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by fizz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u could lose a friend but i think u should but i probably wont work because shes probably to deep in now so if u tell her she might think ur just jealous
2007-01-25 20:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by Perfection 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok get together ask her if she likes him and say well i have some bad news i dont know u might wanna have sex with him and thats all he wants to but i just tought u wanted to know that thats his purpose
2007-02-02 18:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her to keep her from getting hurt
2007-02-01 12:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by HoTaSaToKyOdIaMoNd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay! sometimes we leave people,friends inclusive to make their mistakes and learn from it so that they will be stronger and wiser when they find themselves in simliar situations
2007-02-01 09:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by alley G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you say give me vergina only
2007-01-31 05:19:51 · answer #8 · answered by anubhav_55 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should definitely tell her
2007-01-25 20:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by Vani R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋