Getting a divorce after 8 years, Me and wife have 2 kids
She claims I don't treat her right.The kids are holding
her back from getting a career. But she having a affair and
she go to the clubs. She tells me,The guy she is seeing makes
her happy but she knows they don't have a furture together.But she tell me if she come back to me she won't be happy but she knows we have furture together. What in the hell is that about
2007-01-25 12:33:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its nothing,my friend,she is just trying to figure out,who gives her more financial stability
2007-01-25 12:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If what you're telling me is correct, it means absolutely nothing. I have a brother in law who has the exact same problem. She drives me up a stump! Only she won't leave him, she'll pack up the kids, and then come back after all the money is gone. It's called being a blood sucker, i'm sorry for the kids, but if the mother is out with another man, just what is that telling them?
2007-01-25 12:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by justkiddingu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is just trying to figure out what she wants in life, even though she has kids to think about. You know some times husbands just can't figure out what the wife needs and vise versa. Some people stray because things just aren't what they want them to be. I have been there and I am still with my husband of 15 years and the bottom line is marriage is hard and some people just can't handle it. Good luck. I Hope you find happiness where ever it may be.
2007-01-25 12:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by aloneathome 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like you should let her go.I feel like that if she wants to be with you she will be with you .You are worth more than that. Just go on with your life and ask God for some guidedince. Because he is the only one that can help you get threw this. Just when you let her go on about her marry way and give her an divorce. Make sure the same day you give her an divorce you don't divorce your kids always be there for them because they well always need you.
2007-01-25 13:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by brownsugarsweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds really confused, and selfish. If she's not happy with you, why does she want a future with you? Why do you want a future with her??
She seems to have moved on, since she has a lover already, so you should just let her go on with her life, and you start concentrating on yours. You should get a good lawyer, divorce her and have her pay the child support. Good luck.
2007-01-25 12:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's about neither of you were ready to have children. It is about children are really divisive in a marriage, not bonding. It about neither of you knowing what marriage is, and the commitment to you and your children. It is about the fact that she feels her youth is ebbing, and she damn well better have a good time before no one will want her --- in her eyes... And, it is also about betrayal---- of you, your marriage and your family. Should you wish to save it, you, and she will need some counseling. I write on this topic often... read some of my stuff under the subject similar to yours..
Good luck, hon.
2007-01-25 12:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SHE NEEDS TO BE HAPPY WITH HER FAMILY LIFE IF IT IS A HEALTHY ONE. CAREER LIFE OVER KIDS IS B.S. PEOPLE ALWAYS THINK THEY ARE MISSING OUT AND END UP LOOSING WHAT IS REALLY IMPORTANT. HOW CAN SOMEONE BE HAPPY KNOWING THEY ARE HURTING THEIR KIDS WITH A COMMENT LIKE THE KIDS ARE HOLDING ME BACK. IF YOU DON'T TREAT HER RIGHT ASK HER WHAT SHE NEEDS FROM YOU. I THINK SHE WILL REGRET HER CHOICE. THE CLUB LIFE IS FULL OF LOOSERS AND GAMES.
2007-01-25 13:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know,
seems if she isn`t happy with you, you really don't have a future.I don't understand why women leave good men,they are so hard to find.And you cant carry all the blame.It takes two.
2007-01-25 13:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know what she wants. And the children aren't holding her back from having a career...SHE is holding herself back.
2007-01-25 14:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This means the sex is good with him but there is no future, The sex sucks with you, but you're a stable and secure guy that she knows she can have a future with. I suggest you cut her off completely and now she can have no future with either one.
2007-01-25 13:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are much better off with somebody else that will treat you right and help you raise your children.
2007-01-25 13:21:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋