i got married too young with time and the way he treated me i got sick and tired of him and slowly i stoped feeling the same way what should i do i dont want to hurt him......
2007-01-25 12:13:09 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LMAO...haha, you are already hurting him by lying to him...Next time think before you act so you dont ruin another persons life...
2007-01-25 12:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you to consider some counselling as a couple some of the stuff can change with some direction from an outsider. Marriage is suppose to be for life it at times is not easy it is something to work at all the time. Remember your vows if you were to young then maybe you should have had the sense not to tie the know but now since you have it is something you must work at together. Some guys can be jerks but running away is not going to help you heal get some help as a couple then if that does not help then consider alternatives. God Bless and Good Luck.
2007-01-25 12:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes indeed you married too young. Your sentence structure indicates that you probably didn't even finish high school.... sorry for you hon. The best way to a good life is through education. (It is incorrect to use i for I ( as in "i got married too soon...."). That letter needs to be capitalized, as in "I got married too soon..".
To answer your question, hon, you can't. If he were writing this, how could he tell you he no longer loves you? Would you be hurt if he said that, assuming that you still cared? If you wish to save your marriage, you might try some counseling. But the hard reality is that when you tell someone something that they don't know, and it is a personal thing, an intimate thing, a marriage thing, and it is negative, it will hurt, hon, guaranteed.
2007-01-25 12:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married as well and I also have a question, is he trying to change or has he changed if not then you need to let him know how you feel if he is then I say search your heart once more. Marriage is no piece of cake sweety I know,but you don't get married for the feeling of it, marriage is hard work and if he wants to work things out then maybe you should try don't get a divorce unless he's cheated and you can't take it anymore but if not then do everything in your power to make it work and if it still won't work then you know what you have to do. But I must tell you the best way to do some soul searching and to get the best answers is to take everything to God, He doesn't make mistakes and if you haven't found the Lord you really need to your life is not promised to you and you don't always find a man out here that wants to get married now days. Some times our husbands can act in ways that we don't agree with but we haven't taken a good look at ourselves maybe God wants you to change and we can't change anyone it takes God to do that because the more we try to change someone, the worse they seem to get and sometimes what we see in others is a reflection of what we see in ourselves so maybe you also need to do some soul searching. I had to learn that the more I allowed God to change me, the more He changed my husband so in saying all that. The more you do for God the more He'll do for you
2007-01-25 12:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried about hurting him, then you obviously still care for him. A lot of people will advise you to take the easy way out, but honestly, people today change marriage partners like they change their underwear! A marriage should mean more than that. Have you two even considered marriage counseling? With time and effort, marriage counseling can turn a dying marriage into a strong and healthy one. A lot of people think they can't afford it, but I've heard of some counselors who allow you to make payment arrangements. And, some churches even offer free counseling. It's worth checking into before you just pack up and leave isn't it?
2007-01-25 12:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there has been no abuse, you and him should try to work things out. Tell him that you're drifting apart and need to take steps to grow closer together. Try doing things together that you both enjoy, and seek professional help if neccessary. After being married long enough, lot's of people encounter "dry spells," but it is no reason to throw away a marriage. It's sad how a lot of people take marriage no more seriously than they would a boyfriend or girlfriend.
2007-01-25 12:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Reality 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all in every marriage that has ever happened and will ever happen. you WILL go through a time maybe many times when you hate eachother. if you did any premarriage counseling you would know this. these days most marriages fail because when people go through those times they give up. and thats why marriage is a joke these days. You made a promise to god. till death do you part. if you can make it through this stage i promise you will love him again, unless he's just a bust out loser not going anywhere with his life. but before you married him you should of known if he was a loser or not.
2007-01-25 12:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by ofgatorline_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is good to stay in a marriage where you are feeling no love at all.Maybe you guys need to do new things like go on a romantic cruise to the Carribeans or go to Paris.And maybe you all need to try some marriage counseling, but first I think you need to tell him how you feel before it gets too deep GOOD LUCK : )
2007-01-25 12:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by queent_0506 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you have messed up. You dont want to wreck your whole life. Tell him how you feel. Say mabey you guys could get help and try to get the "spark" back. If you are willing to work at it you might be able to save your marriage, but if there is no hope then mabey you need to think about divorce, I mean your still young and there are many opertunities out there for you, you dont want to wake up one morning wishing you had lived your life to the fullest!
2007-01-25 12:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by katiexo688 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you talk to him, ask for some time out, nothing definitive, so you can figure out your feelings. Marriage is not an easy thing, you have to work on the relationship. But if you find out you really dont love him anymore, you should be honest with him. You both deserve to be happy.
2007-01-25 12:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by mia_gdl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know just how u feel....I went thro the same thing...If i knew more i could give u a better answer....But if he treated u bad and hurt u...will its better to let go....than to let a man destroy u.....If your in a marrage and u dont love him...your not happy....it cost stress on u and stress will bring u down...sweetie....thats all i can tell u unless i know more about it.....please tell me more....i would like to try and help u...your friend ....gypsylady007...
2007-01-25 12:49:31 · answer #11 · answered by gypsylady007a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋