My husband will sometimes get so drunk then coke and I wonder if he will be so high that he would cheat. I have threaten to leave him if happens again but I would just like to know what stupid things it may have him do.
2007-01-25 12:01:23 · 37 answers · asked by kimjoey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Getting drunk is no reason to cheat.Getting high on cocaine is no reason to cheat.There is NO reason to cheat.If you are concerned that your husband is going to cheat that means that you do not trust your husband.Trust is everything in a relationship/marriage if you do not have trust you have nothing.If your husband is doing cocaine and you love him it is your job as his wife to try and get him help.having an addiction to any kind of drug is a problem.I am not saying that you can make him stop because ultimately he is the only person that can make that decision if he does not want to stop he is not going to.I strongly suggest you sit down and have a very serious discussion with him.If he is going to continue to use drug's you really need to reconsider your options.Like I said if you don't have trust you have nothing and the fact that you are asking if a drug will make him cheat you have problems now that you don't realize.Good Luck
2007-01-25 12:15:58 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell yes, and beyond way beyond, but that is no excuse, if your trying to find a reason to forgive someone, this isn't lady. IF he is already a drunk and a coke head he already gave up all his respect for you, regardless of cheating on you or not!
You should leave him, jsut for the fact that he does cocaine, he is ruining himself and you with him, you need to get the hell out, pack your ****, make some plans, and leave and go somewhere, where you cant be found, a friend or someone he doesn't know of, then mail him the divorce papers, you should also file a police report about his behavior, that way if there are kids mixed in all this you can get custody because he'll have a "history", regardless of how recent it was.
At least the kids can get away from the coke, but you really need to look at yourself long and hard, really hard, what in the hell could compell you to hang on in such a terrible situation. Get out women, get out and run for your life!
2007-01-25 12:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,it will make you do lots of stupid things but I suspect he would not be physically able to cheat on you if he does alot of coke.It does not do much for the libido.Do yourself a favor,either he gets help and stops or you need to move on and get rid of him.Sorry to say this but I have first hand knowledge.I was a cokehead for about 10 years.I have been clean for the last 10.All that mattered to me back then was getting high.It was gross.I spent entire paychecks on it and would be broke on Mondays.Your husband sounds alot like I used to be.It would start with alcohol,then when I had enough of a buzz,I would want to go get some coke.He needs help.I was able to move away and that is how I beat my addiction.I gave up all my friends and my pathetic life and relocated and made a new one.It is not easy.To this day,I still think about that feeling of snorting a line.Like any other addict,it is one day at a time.Please get your husband some help or else you really should leave him and move on.Good luck and God bless!!
2007-01-25 12:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Bellows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the guy. Some men are addicted to alcohol. Some men are addicted to cocaine. Some men are addicted to sex. Someone I know very closely is such a bad coke addict he lost his children. His wife has cheated on him a number of times, but he has never cheated on her. By some regards, you could say he is an excellent husband.
My advice... this is already beyond the point where you both need marital counselling. Problems like this can and usually do get out of control and will destroy the lives of both you, your families, and your friends. You may not like hearing that, but my wife and I have never done cocaine in our lives, yet our marriage suffers tremendously because of other people who do.
2007-01-25 12:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by wi_guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't know if being high on coke would cause one to cheat, but the people he is hanging with and if they share the same interests[coke] they would feel comfortable with these kinds of people and he would be less comfortable with u if u did not share his interest. eventually he will either drag u down to his level and u will get involved with it just to keep him, or he will leave u because u don't do that. think it is a waste of time trying to reform him, this is what he likes to do, and if u don't like the same it will ruin the marriage. he is just into this, likes it but what kind of life do u think u will have with him?
2007-01-25 12:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if yoiu find out that he has cheated on you buy him some coke and a 30 pack of beer. Then make him OD on the moxture of drugs and alcohol. That way everybodys happy.
2007-01-25 12:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Tyler.K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi, there. i ought to declare, having study all you have written right here, i'm slightly worried approximately you. i think it is large to your boyfriend to declare that those are "good human beings". I say this because of the fact no person is acceptable and everybody makes blunders, and undesirable judgment alternatives of their lives. What has me worried approximately you is which you're saying your bf behaves otherwise while he's with those human beings. Staying out previous due, connecting with exes and mendacity to you? this make me leap to the top that he has no comprehend for you and can in all danger be utilising along with his buddies and cheating besides. in case you do no longer believe what he's doing, which you mustn't, i think you are the only which ought to in all danger commerce up. you mustn't ought to comply with a relationship in which you're consistently aggravating approximately what may be. in actuality i will inform you staggering now. This relationship exhibits no sings of being healthful for you each time quickly, or of understanding. i'm no longer by way of any potential asserting that your bf is a foul individual, yet he's definitely no longer right for you. there is not any longer something incorrect with commencing over.
2016-09-28 00:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him anyway for being a coke-head. He's only gonna bring you down with him. What if you decide you want children. They will sure have an unfair start to life, and most likely have birth defects or mental disorder.
2007-01-25 12:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't worry. You'lll be a widow in the very near future. Just make sure this loser has a will. Oh, wait. He's got nothing worth keeping, now does he? Well, yes, he does have you... and for some really odd reason, he is abusing the very best thing that has ever happened to him. Honey, please run.
2007-01-25 12:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cocaine is not only illegal, but it's harmful. It's a stimulant that greatly impairs your judgement, so yes, there is a very good chance that he could be unrestrained, especially in sexual situations. It can also lead to heart attack, stroke, and other forms of brain damage. Tell him to clean up, or get out - his problems aren't worth your safety.
2007-01-25 12:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋