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on getting pregnant...now that I am I am happy....BUT SO SO SCARED! I can't stop crying. We haven't told anyone yet until I go to the doctor (which is in a couple days). I am really scared....it's so different than when you think about it and then when it actually happens....PLEASE TELL ME THIS IS NORMAL!! Anyone else like this? I am worried about the scared feelings I am having. Feeling a little guilty that I am so scared of everything to come. Thanks!

2007-01-25 11:57:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

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It is completely normal to be scared. After all, soon another person will be entirely your responsibility to take care of and keep safe. Plus, you will have to adjust to a new routine, your mommy self. And since pregnancy has all kinds of hormones going through your body, it can easily put you through an emotional roller coaster, especially during first trimester. But then when your baby is born, everything just falls into place.

2007-01-25 12:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by Erika 7 · 0 0

Find a good friend that is a mother or talk to your own mother. Also get a couple of good books too...So You're Going to be A Dad, by Peter Downey, Is supposed to be for dads, but I read it and found it hilarious, maybe it will help to lighten your heart. Becoming a mother can be very scary, but it should also bring you great joy. Try not to stress because that will not be good for either you or the baby,,,

Try to find other things to occupy yourself with like shopping for your child to be...Or picking out names... Fun stuff! Worry when there is something to worry about, otherwise you will miss all the truly joyous moments worrying.

Another great book to get about the birth process & how to prepare thoughout your entire pregnancy is The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth by Henci Goer. I was a very nervous new mom too...But as you learn to relax & trust yourself, you will be amazed at what you can handle...

We are thinking about # 2 I can already see how much easier & less stressful #2 will be with all the learning I did wiith #1. You are a good mom to worry, but it's not good to worry too much! You will do wonderful & I am so excited for you!

2007-01-25 12:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0 0

First off CONGRATS!!!! As the mother of 4 daughters I felt the same way with each and every one. It's normal to be scared you have no idea what to expect while being pregnant or being a mother. Change is always scary. Relax and let it sink in for a few days. You may also want to get the book " what to expect when your expecting" its great. You will be fine and the fear will turn into excitement soon enough. Good luck

2007-01-25 12:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by GI 5 · 0 0

don't stress about it. my husband and i didn't plan to have our first till a few more years down the road but it didn't happen accordingly to plan. it was never planned but it wasn't exactly prevented. i knew that night that i was going to be pregnant. well once it happened i was sort of in shock. its a new thing to experience. just to know that you basically have this life inside you. you can't see it and you can't tell its there early on so its still hard to imagine your pregnant. and if you're unlucky like some of us you will have morning sickness and maybe even nausea from being hungry. and at those times you may regret being pregnant. but that will pass. once you feel the first movements everything will seem right and perfect for you.

2007-01-25 14:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by LaRae L 4 · 0 0

I think a small amount of apprehension is healthy. I think it means you'll do a great job. What a world it would be if everyone took the job seriously. Don't freak out too much, sit back and enjoy. This whole process is something that will never fade from memory, like other things do.

2007-01-25 12:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by momof2 3 · 0 0

I did the same thing when I found out I was pregnant. It natural because it does mean big changes but it does pass and the excitment takes over.
My daughter is now 4 and is the best thing I ever did.
Just give yourself time to get use to it.

2007-01-25 12:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by Gudge 2 · 0 0

Don't be guilty! Being scared is totally normal. You should be scared because this is new and a huge responsibility. You are up for it, but that doesn't mean you can't be nervous.

2007-01-25 12:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by Medical Disaster 3 · 0 0

Totally normal! Find a mom group or expecting mom group in your area and make some friends. That will help a lot. Having other people to talk to who have gone through it is always nice. That way you can ask them the questions you feel are too stupid to ask your OB. =)

2007-01-25 12:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by arfiegel 2 · 0 0

Everything is going to be okay. It's such a life changing thing that I can understand where you would cry. Don't feel guilty, it's normal and shows maturity, you just know what your getting yourself in to.

2007-01-25 12:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Totally normal! I was freaking out about being a mom right up until my cutie was born. Now I wouldn't trade her for anything in the world! Congrats!

2007-01-25 12:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by Ski_grl 2 · 0 0

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