you're scared you'll keep ending up with guys like this one..or you'll never find better and end up alone?
2007-01-25 11:50:40 · 13 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. If you are being mistreated, you can and will find someone better.
2. If you're afraid you'll repeat the same mistakes, get some counselling to explore why you are allowing yourself to be treated with less respect than you deserve.
2007-01-25 11:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find the place where you are happy with yourself. People that continuously go to the same "type" of man/woman are lacking in some area. A woman that stays in an abusive relationship tends to need the control for whatever reason, whether she grew up in it etc., because physical, verbal and mental abuse is all about control, demeaning another human, insecurity on the part of the abuser, etc. Once you get counseling, become ok with being alone (not lonely that is completely different!!), take time to find the happiness you deserve that isn't provided by someone else. BE OK WITH BEING YOU!!! Get counseling, there are plenty of women's groups and support for women that have been through this. You MUST do this to break the cycle. Good Luck, be strong, and keep your head up--you are worth more than he gives you credit for. You will find that man who makes you feel like a queen.
2007-01-25 20:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters, have faith in yourself. Love yourself. I know everyone at some point fears being alone - but that's no reason to stay in a relationship that affects you negatively. So, get OUT of that relationship. You might be scared, and I know it might be difficult - but too often, people put up with stuff that they don't have to because they don't leave. People die because of that. I don't know you, but I can't stand the thought of that fate happening to ANYONE.
Second, 'single' is in no way a dirty word. There are actually many positives about going solo for a while - the biggest one I can think of is getting more time for yourself. ^-^
Lastly, you seem a little bit unsure of yourself. Use your time off from guys to build up your self-love - because if you can't love yourself, then it'll be that much harder to learn to love others.
True, there are other jerks out there. But by knowing what they're like from experiences, you'll be more wary of what to watch out for. So do yourself a favor, and ditch the one that's hurting you now. You deserve better than that, believe me.
2007-01-25 20:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one of those questioons that cant be answered only you can
answer this for yourself. Not all guys can be screwed up and there are many to choose from but I do recommend divorce. It's just time for you to decide if you need to find a guy that treats you like the lady you are guys can change if given some direction from the lady in there life. But some guys just grow up in disfunctional homes and watch there dad treat there moms like crap and consider it normal. You must explain to your mate that he needs to start respecting you more or he may find himself sad,alone and misrable one day soon.
2007-01-25 20:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks, but you have to believe if you are being mistreated, even being alone would be better than that. You will not be left alone, you need to get out and learn to love yourself, it's a very attractive quality for a person to have. Good Luck.
2007-01-25 20:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nothing to fear.. You will have a life worth living when you find happiness. Relationships can end and come a dime a dozen soo don't worry about meeting the wrong men, but concentrate on finding the right one.. He's out there somewhere... You just gotta find him!! Good Luck!!!
2007-01-25 19:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I never had a problem with ending up alone, maybe this is why I never had a problem finding guys who respected me. They knew I didn't *need* them to be happy, but as long as they were on their best behavior I woudl *want* to be with them. You have to work on changing your attitude; independence makes you more, not less, attractive.
2007-01-25 20:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this means that you have been treated like s*it for so long that you think this is just a way of life !!! its not trust me .... if u truly want to find something better u will.. u can't have negative point of view ... there are guys out there, but you got to be independent girl !! good luck
2007-01-25 20:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by Emmie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way but I left and I feel great, and you and I both will find someone who loves us for who we are you need to get to know yourself again and when you do that it will be great, I am just learning who I am again and it is amazing. and I will find that special someone now or later it does not matter because I am happy with who I am. Good Luck
2007-01-25 19:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me you will not wind up alone.
get some counseling. sounds like your lover man has done quite the number on you. he is abusing you and you haven't connected the dots yet.
get out while the getting is good.
2007-01-25 20:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋